Many individuals we have spoken to lately have expressed concerns about how oral sex should occur between two people for the first time. More specifically, how one should ask for oral sex without knowing if their partner even likes giving and/or receiving it. Our answer to this classic sexual conundrum is fairly simple.
Take control of your questions.
Basic strategy dictates one must have information before making a decision. Therefore, someone needs to make a move toward oral sex before an answer can be obtained. We understand this may be more difficult and uncomfortable for the more submissive varieties, but fear has no place in the bedroom. Communication, whether via spoken word or obvious body language, is key to having the best oral sex possible with any individual. So, if you’re not getting any of the signals you need, gently force the issue.
Now, the use of “gently” is very important in this oral sex tip. We are not condoning grabbing someone by the back of the head, and thrusting your genitals in their face before they can react. Make your gestures blatant, but easy to respond to.
For example:
“Donny and Dana have just returned after meeting for the first time at their local bar, and are continuing a spirited make-out session whilst coming through the front door. Donny shuts the door behind him, and the frisky duo falls to the carpet. Dana undoes Donny’s belt and smiles at him while taking hold of his erection. Getting more and more turned on, Donny then passes over Dana’s legs and straddles her chest to present himself for fellatio.”
…. ERRRRRR – WRONG: Stop on a Whammy!
Although this move can be very good for couples who are already comfortable with their boundaries, there is no way Donny could have known if Dana likes to give fellatio. He just shoved his thing in her face, hoping for the positive side of a 50/50 chance. Let’s rewind a bit and see if there is a better way for Donny to proceed.
“Donny and Dana have just returned after meeting for the first time at their local bar, and are continuing a spirited make-out session whilst coming through the front door. Donny shuts the door behind him, and the frisky duo falls to the carpet. Dana undoes Donny’s belt and smiles at him while taking hold of his erection. Getting more and more turned on, Donny wraps his arms around Dana and rolls her to the top. Dana giggles a bit while slowly rotating her hips, and Donny runs his fingers through her hair. He tilts his head sideways, letting Dana kiss down his neck, and says, “If you wanted to kiss lower, I would return the favor.” Dana responds by kissing down Donny’s stomach, and takes him into her mouth for the best blowjob he has ever experienced.”
Ding Ding Ding!
This time around, Donny’s actions gave Dana ample time to refuse giving oral sex. Not only did this make Dana more comfortable with Donny as an oral sex partner, but it also most likely “sealed the deal” for him getting any further than where the first oral sex scenario ended. Keep your partners’ right to their decisions in mind, and you will find much more willing oral sex in your future.
Oral sex aficionados may have their techniques down to a science, but there is always room to improve. Many people simply dive face first into oral sex with their partner, and remain deeply focused on bringing them to fruition. Where the focus and effort are surely appreciated, something is also lost.
Although the term “G-Spot” is normally used in reference to the female, men also have such a thing. In fact, to many women’s shock and jealousy, men have three major G-spots women can utilize to their advantage during oral sex. We have spoken a lot on the importance of communication between partners, but not everyone is comfortable directing another person in bed. Understanding where these areas are can help women become “sex goddesses” in their strong, silent men’s eyes. Easily inducing strong orgasms with little to no help at all. So, where is the famed penile pleasure trinity located?
My Week In Oral Sex
Mon. 6/6
Shower prior to shooting: Quinn is a new comer so we had never met before, let alone had a chance to properly acquaint ourselves– so I offered to help shave her pussy (by the way, this pick up line is to be used with extreme caution. Frankly men should disregard it all together.) We got nice and wet in the shower and I had her prop up one of her fiercely long legs up on the wall so I could get to her creamy pussy. While on my knees looking up, I lathered soap from her thighs, to her plump ass, and finally around her then fuzzy pink pussy. I loved looking up and seeing everything covered in foam but the slit of her pussy and ass! She received a very attentive shave, and was very helpful in spreading her pussy for me whenever I needed her to do so. Once we rinsed off her lips felt so slick and smooth– totally worth the effort. I licked around her pussy and let the water from the shower splash between her thighs and my face. She held my long hair for me while I teased her and sucked on one of her lips. Once my tongue dipped inside her slit I’m not sure what happened– I may have lost some time.. I loved feeling the wetness of her pussy mixing with the water in my mouth…
Tue. 6/7
On set we shot a 2 lady, 1 gentleman scene today — I love the results almost as much as I loved shooting it (which would be impossible to surpass)! There were two very sexy/memorable events today that I ought to mention– Monday night we decided that scissoring would be a really fun first time for both girls– and we take fantasies very seriously around here! So as we were getting warmed up for the huge dick on set– we went for it! We took a moment to think about the hows and wheres of course, then we overlapped legs and pressed our lips together. Yes. It was hot, wet, incredible, arousing, even slightly more exciting than I anticipated. So exciting that we even tried to figure out how to arrange for our now really stiff male star to penetrate our scissored lips– but it was far to advanced for our mere 10 minutes of total time in that position. All in all it was agreed that touching pussies was insanely hot– but requires great stamina and the ability to laugh with yourself & those around you while having sex. The other event I’d like to mention occurred while shooting an intense fucking scene earlier. After our new comer climaxed, I was instructed to lick the cum off of our male talents throbbing hard-on. I gladly accepted! I’ve only been able to indulge in this once or twice before so it was a real treat! Her cum was perfect all over his cock, making him slightly sweet… The perfect conclusion? After I licked his shaft clean, he gave us a facial together.
Thurs. 6/9
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::It seems like the coolest oral experience for the week was saved for last! This was a first time for me– where I was able to have a lovely wet snatch and huge cock on my face at the same time!!! Honestly I have thought about it several times per day every day since then because it was really that serious.:: Quinn and I started the show with mutual masturbation. We then progressed into a short Over-the-Knee spanking scene, and eventually made it into a boy, girl, girl three some. As the two girls in the trio, it was fun to use our mouths together, rotating our tongues, lips, and sucking on him repeatedly. She and I put our mouths on either side of his thick shaft, letting him push through our soft lips. Once we got that technique down we alternated for awhile, and switched gears a little allowing her to go into doggy with me guiding her hips from the front. It was hot to watch, so before long I asked if I could position my head under all the action (his dick & her snatch). It was phenomenal! I loved being able to use each and every sense at once on two people… By simply extending my tongue, I could taste her wet lips AND his stiff dick! I will say that it’s a bit overwhelming, and if you aren’t mindful of your position it may become difficult to breathe. Don’t let this serve as any sort of discouragement though… it’s perfection, and I’ll be doing it again as soon as possible!
- Arden Adamz