Road Head: Hot or Hazardous?

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It’s summer time! For most Americans, plans will include some kind of exodus to a large body of water: Beaches, Lakes, Pools, etc. Well this is OralSex.com, and I thought of what that trend might mean for those of us naughty enough to read this and then go on vacation… If you’re driving to one of the destinations I’ve mentioned, and find yourself (or your partner) contemplating the possibility of “Road Head“… Remember this article! (It might save your life! And in turn save all the oral sex you would otherwise be having in the future!)

Road trips have this unique way of surprising us from time to time. You never know what could happen when you’re all cooped up in a vehicle with each other, bound for destinations known or otherwise. It can be unpredictable, but one thing you can usually count on while stationary for hours on end– is boredom. No matter the playlists, magazines, naps, advanced level I-Spy, or fast food stops– you may find yourself desperately searching for entertainment alternatives. Once you’ve crossed this threshold you may also find yourself considering things you’ve never before considered… like road head.

It’s only natural for sex to weasel it’s way into even the most mundane tasks. While driving, or locked in bumper to bumper traffic, it’s fun to joke about making the ride a little sexier. There’s a certain allure to blow jobs on wheels. It’s semi-public, with all the pedestrians, cars, & trucks– someone might catch you! It’s fast, it involves cars, it’s spontaneous, and it’s down right naughty! You might be asking yourself– “Why don’t we face-fuck every time we get behind the wheel?!?” Well my friends, I can tell you based upon thorough personal research– It’s not as entertaining as you might expect!

For starters: Many vehicles pose built-in obstacles that barricade you from reaching your intended target. Seat belts, gear shifters, steering wheels, center consoles, arm rests… All total obstructions! If you manage to somehow overcome such barriers, (you must be an expert yogi, &/or fiercely determined) there are still certain things to consider: The semi-public element you once thought of as a thrill may turn on you at any time. Likely observers will be the people NOT driving other vehicles, such as children, or the elderly. Law enforcement is another potential threat. You certainly don’t want any of these people peeping your in-car sexcapades. Last but certainly not least (and probably the most obvious) there’s the risk of wrecking your car resulting in the worst orgasm ever.

In the end, road head seems to be a lot more trouble than it’s worth, but If you’re not convinced & find yourself determined to blow on the go, I have a few recommendations. First: Don’t wait until your on the highway to whip it out and indulge. Save this naughty treat for back roads only, or a similar area where traffic won’t be so abundant. Or: Consider opting for a backseat oral session instead. You could talk dirty on your way to a secluded parking lot and hop into the backseat once you arrive. It will still feel risky but won’t involve all the complications of traditional road head. Another option might be: Road hand jobs instead of head. It’s a lot more discrete, comfortable, and you can even keep your seat belt on! Good Luck out there! -Arden

Going Down On A Woman – It’s All About Variety

There is no doubt that one of the favourite things for a woman to receive is oral sex. Yes, there are some women who simply don’t enjoy it, no matter how good their partner may be, but these women are in the minority. Oral sex tends to be a favourite among women because it allows their partner to use techniques that involve a lot of precision, using a wide variety of textures and types of stimulation. If you’re a straight/bi male, you sticking your dick in a vagina limits you on the different sensations you can provide and what exact spots you hit. Sure you can press your pubic mound against hers to stimulate the clit without needing your hands and you can angle your penis towards her g-spot, but it will never be as controlled and direct as oral.

Simply put, there is no other feeling like a mouth on your vulva. It’s warm, wet and so many different sensations can be experienced. Hot or cold air can be gently blown over the pussy lips and whole vulva area. Lips can kiss, ever-so-gently brush against or suck on every inch of her womanly bits. The tongue can be made to be soft, flat and broad, or firm and pointy to lick, swirl, press or flick. Teeth can be used to gently nibble or even apply a bit more pressure for some pain play. Add moaning in and the vibrations traveling up from the throat to the mouth will act like a vibrator on her.

Notice how I said “every inch”? I can’t stress that enough. The clit is not the only part of the vulva that is sensitive to stimulation! Inner thighs, outer and inner lips, the perineum, the urethral meatus, the vaginal opening, the clit and all the other areas there that you can get your mouth on can be incredibly sensitive. It’s about playing around with different speeds (fast is not always better!), sensations, and techniques. Take. Your. Time. The average woman takes 30 minutes of continual stimulation to reach orgasm. It’s all about a nice gradual build up. The worst you can do is try to get her to orgasm right off the bat. Instead, let her know you’re going to be down there for a while and she should make herself good and comfortable. Tease her like you’ve never teased her before. Go painfully slow and explore every fold, nook, and cranny present between her thighs. Pay attention to which types of stimulation she responds to and what areas are really sensitive.

Don’t be afraid to be silly with it. Pinch her outer lips together and move your hands in a motion like you’re trying to jerk her clit off through the lips. Suck, nibble and pull on the lips. When your mouth is on her, play with different moaning or humming sounds; the pitch of the hum changes the feel of the vibrations. Hold her clitoral hood between your lips or fingers and have her do kegel exercises to move her clit up and down and jerk herself off. Or suck her clit off like you’re giving her a blowjob. It’s all about being creative, adventurous and just experimenting as much as you can to find new ‘tricks’.

Some women need the same stimulation over and over again, while others need you to keep switching it up. Personally? Put your fucking fingers in me and get my g-spot going! I can’t stand it when a guy is only using his mouth on me and forgetting how unbelievably amazing it is for him to do that along with his fingers rubbing against my g-spot. But not every woman is the same. Some don’t experience any pleasure from g-spot stimulation or fingering, so TALK to your partner about what she likes. You can also use a hand or two to play with her breasts, push down on her pubic mound, or gently stroke any part of her body that’s within reach.

Oral is all about having fun. You need to be enjoying yourself just as much as she is. It’s not something to be taken so seriously… play around, be silly and that’s when you learn so much more about your partner’s sexual response than ever before. The more you put yourself out there and really work to figure out all the different things you can do to her, the more willing she’ll be when she returns the favour and goes down on you. Encourage each other to be as adventurous and creative as possible and a whole new world of oral pleasure will emerge.

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Maxxters is a female in her late 20s and a former high school teacher. She taught Science and Sex Ed to 12-18 year olds. She’s currently working on her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality. She is also an aerobics instructor and personal trainer, working with those who suffer from eating disorders and body image issues. Send her your questions at: maxxters@sexpertslounge.com

Tips and Techniques: Loving The Whole Package

Cunnilingus The clitoris is filled with about 8,000 nerve endings. It is the orgasm center for many, many women, so it only makes sense to go straight to the source and give it hell, right? Nope. It may come as a surprise, but heading straight to the clit for the vast majority of women can be uncomfortable and even painful. Your intentions are in the right place, but you can actually give her more pleasure by holding off for just a bit.

While there are many methods when it comes to cunnilingus, I’m going to give you a few pointers that will help you to use your mouth to make her feel awesome. Like many men and women, you probably love the feel and taste of her soft, warm lady bits on your tongue and lips. Don’t be afraid to enjoy every bit of her to the fullest extent.

So, what do you do?

Kisses. It may sound contrived or predictable, but there’s a reason this bit of advice comes up as often as it does. Kissing is the ideal action for so many things in life, but here I’m telling you to start by kissing her pussy as is before you begin spreading, opening and unfolding. Make sure your lips are moist, then lay a few gentle smackers on her inner thighs, working your way towards her lips. Once you get to them, give them a few kisses too. Soft at first, gradually increasing the pressure. You’ll be shocked at how this little move gets her going.

Hands. Now you can get your hands involved. Gently spread her lips, massage her inner and outer labia with your wet fingers. Perhaps you place your hand on her pussy so that her clit is between your fingers. Make sure your hands are warm and your fingers are wet. Saliva works! Eventually she’ll be so turned on that you’ll be able to use her juices.

Let the tip of your tongue run along the opening, barely pressing against her still hood-covered clit (if this applies. Some women have clits that are always exposed). Experiment and see what she likes. Go from using the tip of your tongue to a full fledged lapping using your entire tongue. She might like this more. Pay attention to her reactions. Press a little harder against her clit. Is this what she wants? You’ll be able to tell – noises, a rocking pelvis, hand on the head, pulling of your hair. Unless she is incredibly shy (to be addressed at a later date), there will be some indication of what she prefers.

When the party really gets rolling and she is super wet, THEN you give her waiting clit some direct stimulation. Lift up the little bit of skin that may or may not be covering and flick your tongue back and forth. Some ladies will love this. Their legs will shake, they will gasp and moan, their back will arch and who knows what else could go down. However, some women never like direct stim during oral sex or any other time. She might squeeze her legs shut, scoot away or jump a little. If she isn’t the expressive type and you can’t tell, just ask.

A little clitoral sucking action may also be in order. Again, pay attention. If she is loving it, hang on for the ride! Do NOT stop until she stops. Her hips might be bucking, but trust me you’re going to want to keep going. Enjoy it! Take it in and recognize that you are making her feel amazing and about to give her one earth shattering orgasm.

Oral Sex Tips – Cunnilingus – Tempo Tempo Tempo

One of the things many women complain men do wrong when they give oral sex today, is they are far too overzealous. Gentlemen, these are girls we are talking about. They take extra time showering, extra time dressing, extra time talking on the phone, and more extra time in plenty of other instances. What makes you think a woman would want receiving oral sex to be any different?

Instead of immediately slamming your five o’clock shadow into the most sensitive spot on her entire body, take your time and enjoy yourself. The entire vulva loves to be licked and sucked upon, so start light and shallow. Begin by gently licking the outside of her labia, and taking each lip into your mouth to massage them with your tongue. Once she shows increased body language, move on to gently rubbing your tongue flat against her clitoris, and flicking it with the tip. We guarantee you’ll have her far more turned on than if you were to take the Speed Racer route.

Making yourself comfortable exploring the vagina helps to keep a woman relaxed with what you are doing down there. The more relaxed she becomes, the easier it will be to make her orgasm. She will also most likely be more willing to direct your efforts, making it less of a challenge to understand her oral sex desires in the future.

Oral Sex Techniques – Getting Handsy

Getting handsy is a great way for you and your guy to get more out of oral sex. That isn’t to say that your mouth alone isn’t doing a stellar job of creating boundless pleasure, but the addition of a hand or two can really change it up and add to the fellatio experience for both of you.

I’m talking to you, assuming you are the giver. The addition of your hand can take on a little of the work load to give your mouth a bit of a break, especially if he’s larger than what your mouth can comfortably handle. Sure, a challenge is fun, as is pushing yourself beyond your limits, but there tends to come a point during oral sex when you’re still into it, but your mouth and throat could use some assistance. If you’re a pleaser, and it’s important for you to keep going and maintain equal pleasure, your hands are there for you.

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Recession Goes Oral

In today’s thoughts on oral sex — When the DOW goes down, so should you!

I’m a glutton for new articles and perspectives on sex, and mouthy pieces make me particularly excitable. Recently I’ve been noticing that with the influx in recession coverage, thrifty sex information has also risen to the occasion. What’s even more exciting is the new perk up in American consumption of sexual health products. “What in the heck does this have to do with more blow j’s Arden?” You might query. Here’s the break down my horny-recessed-friends… Not only is oral sex free, (alternatively if it is not free it’s less expensive according to several recent right wing news articles) but it’s also considered a damn effective form of contraception– yielding erotic benefits unique to itself.

According to a Forbes.com article* on Sex and the Recession, while industries across the board are taking financial kicks to the balls– sexual aid and sexual health companies are putting out more products than ever before for the increased demand from responsible, sexually active consumers. It’s not much of a surprise– depressed economies and war are known for instigating more sex among citizens, and today we’re still not ready to let our libidos take a slide with the market! When you walk into your local mega mart you’ll find new expanded family planning, sexual enhancement products, and even toys! Embracing new affordable products are helping Americans everywhere recess-proof their sex lives. Don’t let the lack of cushion prevent you from… ok, OK… The point is, despite certain challenges we might face– we can all turn to one of our less obvious past times– Oral Sex.

Arden

* Forbes.com “Sex And Recession” Christopher Varmus

Oral Sex Tips – Take Control

Oral Sex Tips - Take Control Many individuals we have spoken to lately have expressed concerns about how oral sex should occur between two people for the first time. More specifically, how one should ask for oral sex without knowing if their partner even likes giving and/or receiving it. Our answer to this classic sexual conundrum is fairly simple.

Take control of your questions.

Basic strategy dictates one must have information before making a decision. Therefore, someone needs to make a move toward oral sex before an answer can be obtained. We understand this may be more difficult and uncomfortable for the more submissive varieties, but fear has no place in the bedroom. Communication, whether via spoken word or obvious body language, is key to having the best oral sex possible with any individual. So, if you’re not getting any of the signals you need, gently force the issue.

Now, the use of “gently” is very important in this oral sex tip. We are not condoning grabbing someone by the back of the head, and thrusting your genitals in their face before they can react. Make your gestures blatant, but easy to respond to.

For example:

…. ERRRRRR – WRONG: Stop on a Whammy!

Although this move can be very good for couples who are already comfortable with their boundaries, there is no way Donny could have known if Dana likes to give fellatio. He just shoved his thing in her face, hoping for the positive side of a 50/50 chance. Let’s rewind a bit and see if there is a better way for Donny to proceed.

“Donny and Dana have just returned after meeting for the first time at their local bar, and are continuing a spirited make-out session whilst coming through the front door. Donny shuts the door behind him, and the frisky duo falls to the carpet. Dana undoes Donny’s belt and smiles at him while taking hold of his erection. Getting more and more turned on, Donny wraps his arms around Dana and rolls her to the top. Dana giggles a bit while slowly rotating her hips, and Donny runs his fingers through her hair. He tilts his head sideways, letting Dana kiss down his neck, and says, “If you wanted to kiss lower, I would return the favor.” Dana responds by kissing down Donny’s stomach, and takes him into her mouth for the best blowjob he has ever experienced.”

Ding Ding Ding!

This time around, Donny’s actions gave Dana ample time to refuse giving oral sex. Not only did this make Dana more comfortable with Donny as an oral sex partner, but it also most likely “sealed the deal” for him getting any further than where the first oral sex scenario ended. Keep your partners’ right to their decisions in mind, and you will find much more willing oral sex in your future.

Oral Sex Toys – The Sqweel Oral Sex Simulator

An oral sex – sex toy? Well, not exactly, but it is a unique toy that creates similar sensations. What am I talking about? I’ll explain after I get through the technical info.

The Sqweel consists of a rotating, not vibrating, wheel of 10 silicone tongues housed in an ABS plastic hockey puck-like case. The silicone is phthalates free, hypoallergenic and non-porous. It is totally body safe. The Sqweel measures roughly 5 inches across. It has 3 speeds and is powered by 3 AAA batteries (not included). The case comes apart so you can remove the wheel and clean with ease. This is not a waterproof toy. You can’t submerge the case in water because it houses the motor, but you can do so with the wheel of tongues. The Sqweel is a bit on the noisy side. It is tolerable, but I definitely wouldn’t use it if I was trying to masturbate ninja style.

Okay, back to the whole oral sex thing. The Sqweel was created as an oral sex stimulator. Here is the deal; it doesn’t necessarily recreate the feeling of someone going down on you. I don’t really see how that would be possible unless you built a person’s head and robotic tongue, but that would be beyond creepy. Well, if that’s something that interests you, I’m not here to stop from enjoying it. Anyway, the Sqweel doesn’t mimic the glorious feeling of cunnilingus, but it does create that lingering sustained sensation you get from oral sex lovin’. When lube is added, the tongues glide across your clit, labia, nipples or anywhere else you choose to use it. If you press down too hard, the wheel stops so you never really attain that pressure that often helps you reach orgasm. The stimulation is soft and gentle from beginning to end. If you are looking for a quick O, this toy will only disappoint. If you have the time to just lie back and enjoy the magical pink wheel, the Sqweel totally rocks your world. It brings you to the edge without pushing you over it. It is the perfect oral sex simulator for spending some quality time with yourself, not for getting off on the go. It is ideal for warm up before a more intense solo session or when looking to tease your partner. Waterbased lube is a must with this toy. You want the tongues to glide across your clit, not slap it.

Out of the 3 speeds, I preferred the middle. The lowest setting was just too weak and the highest provided too much of a tingly sensation. I definitely enjoyed experimenting with the Sqweel at various angles, but I did not like turning it around letting the tongues lap my clit in reverse. It didn’t hurt; it was just weird and uncomfortable. I imagine that someone who enjoys direct pinpointed clitoral stimulation may like this.

The only thing I don’t like about the Sqweel is that because it is a bit cumbersome, it isn’t possible to use a dildo at the same time. I think that combo would definitely be a force to be reckoned with, but it just wasn’t possible for me. Luckily, they created some new attachments that make this possible, but I have yet to use them.

I would definitely recommend this toy to anyone who doesn’t require super high speed stimulation. If you need that or tons of pressure, this isn’t for you. I also wouldn’t purchase this in hopes of recreating oral sex. You’ll just be sad. If you’re looking for something all together different, the Sqweel is for you.

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Oral Sex Toys – Lingo Tongue Vibrator

During a dinner conversation, fairly normal for us, the topic of oral sex toys was brought up. The immediate suggestions of flavored lubes were obvious, but we wanted something more indicative of what an oral sex toy sounds like it should be. A physical toy made for enhancing oral sex. During our research, we came across SexToys.com. A very easy to use website with some interesting oral sex mechanisms. Over the next couple weeks, we plan to show you some oral sex toys which may make your oral sex endeavors better than ever.

Meet the Lingo Tongue Vibrator. Created by Screaming O, this oral sex tongue vibrator has been designed to fit below the base of the tongue, with the vibrating bullet resting on your licking surface. Two round knobs at the bottom of this vibrating tongue ring keep a snug fit for better control. Simply press a button to start the vibrator, and listen to your oral sex partner’s sounds of approval.

The Lingo Tongue Vibrator is waterproof, so don’t worry about having an electronic device in your mouth. Although, the device is a one time use due to it’s moisture safety. The battery life of this oral sex toy is 40 minutes, but we’re certain its good for multiple orgasms. The vibrator is covered in super soft gel, made of safe SEBS food-grade silicone, and comes with a ribbed surface for extra pleasure.

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Actual user review:
“This thing makes oral sex even better… which i didn’t think was possible. I love vibrators, but me and my hubby wanted to find something we could use together. His tongue feels so good on my clit when it vibrates. I have to try and not cum too fast! He says it’s snug on his tongue, but it doesn’t bother him.”

Oral Sex Tips – Smile for the Camera

Oral-Sex-Tips-Smile Oral sex aficionados may have their techniques down to a science, but there is always room to improve. Many people simply dive face first into oral sex with their partner, and remain deeply focused on bringing them to fruition. Where the focus and effort are surely appreciated, something is also lost.

What happened to the fun?

An integral part of any foreplay technique is the element of “tease”. There are many sub-elements which come together to create a successful tease, and some vary depending on each couple’s sexual dynamic, but I would like to focus on your pearly whites for now. Whether your sexual attitude lie more on the devious or the innocent side of the spectrum, showing enjoyment of the process to your partner can carry your sexual experiences far beyond the limits of physical prowess. Of course this concept makes logical sense when receiving oral sex, but it is even more important when giving it.

As the receiver of oral sex, ruling out the 69 position for this article’s sake, a person is at their most vulnerable. Think back to the last time you were on the receiving end of things. Regardless of how much you attempt to control your giver, you are entirely at the mercy of their mouth on your fun parts. Now, let me ask you a question while the image of your last partner’s face between your legs is fresh. Doesn’t it make you feel less restricted when the giver looks as if he/she/he-she is enjoying the oral sex process as well?

When giving oral sex of any attitude, make sure you make eye contact and smile at your receiver. If you’re into the more dark and devious side of oral sex, the smile sends a message of devious pleasure directly connected to controlling your receiver. For the more innocent variety, smiling makes your receiver that much more comfortable enjoying your oral sex. Both will guarantee a much more fluid exchange of emotion.

Smile!

Road Head: Hot or Hazardous?

Going Down On A Woman – It’s All About Variety

Tips and Techniques: Loving The Whole Package

Oral Sex Tips – Cunnilingus – Tempo Tempo Tempo

Oral Sex Techniques – Getting Handsy

Recession Goes Oral

Oral Sex Tips – Take Control

Oral Sex Toys – The Sqweel Oral Sex Simulator

Oral Sex Toys – Lingo Tongue Vibrator

Oral Sex Tips – Smile for the Camera

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