I was hanging out with a group of close girlfriends about a week ago.  One of the girls is in a fairly new relationship and they’re still in that place where they can barely leave the house because all they want to do is stay home and fuck.   Naturally, we all wanted to know how it was going along with any of the juicy sexy-time details she was willing to share.  We inquired and she responded with a sigh and told us that he has only ever gone down on her once.  She, let’s call her “Kate”, added that she doesn’t understand why her man never gives up the cunnilingus and just goes straight for penis to vagina penetration.  Asking would be the most direct way to solve her problem, but she just hasn’t brought herself to do so.  Ask

Look, you can spend your life playing games and hoping you’ll get what you want, but you can avoid such nonsense and simply ask for it.  If you really enjoy receiving oral sex and you’re not getting it, perhaps it is time to open up a dialogue.  It may be as simple as telling your partner that you love having your pussy licked.  Perhaps they need to be reminded that, while you love intercourse, oral sex bring about intense orgasms or just serve as foreplay.  I realize that bringing up such subjects can be uncomfortable, but growing a pair and facing it can help avoid your dissatisfaction and possibly relationship issues.  A fulfilling sex life is worth a few minutes or hours of awkwardness.

It is possible that your partner feels questionable about their oral skills and prefers to avoid it completely rather than not appear confident between your legs.  To ease their fears, you can offer to coach them through and tell them what you like.  You help him to help you and you get to level up in the intimacy department.  Communicating is sexy!  Chances are, he wants to please you and will feel really good once you lead him down the right path.

You can walk around expecting people to know what you need from them, but that is a sure fire way to go through life unsatisfied and bitter.  This is true in all areas of life, but the least you can do is ask your partner to put his or her mouth on your vagina.  Enough with the games!

P.S. I apologize if you are offended by the heterocentricity if this post.  This advice applies to everyone regardless of gender, sexual preference and parts.  Since a hetero female inspired this, I used the corresponding language.

 

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There is no doubt that one of the favourite things for a woman to receive is oral sex. Yes, there are some women who simply don’t enjoy it, no matter how good their partner may be, but these women are in the minority. Oral sex tends to be a favourite among women because it allows their partner to use techniques that involve a lot of precision, using a wide variety of textures and types of stimulation. If you’re a straight/bi male, you sticking your dick in a vagina limits you on the different sensations you can provide and what exact spots you hit. Sure you can press your pubic mound against hers to stimulate the clit without needing your hands and you can angle your penis towards her g-spot, but it will never be as controlled and direct as oral.The Importance Of Vairety In Cunnilingus

Simply put, there is no other feeling like a mouth on your vulva. It’s warm, wet and so many different sensations can be experienced. Hot or cold air can be gently blown over the pussy lips and whole vulva area. Lips can kiss, ever-so-gently brush against or suck on every inch of her womanly bits. The tongue can be made to be soft, flat and broad, or firm and pointy to lick, swirl, press or flick. Teeth can be used to gently nibble or even apply a bit more pressure for some pain play. Add moaning in and the vibrations traveling up from the throat to the mouth will act like a vibrator on her.

Notice how I said “every inch”? I can’t stress that enough. The clit is not the only part of the vulva that is sensitive to stimulation! Inner thighs, outer and inner lips, the perineum, the urethral meatus, the vaginal opening, the clit and all the other areas there that you can get your mouth on can be incredibly sensitive. It’s about playing around with different speeds (fast is not always better!), sensations, and techniques. Take. Your. Time. The average woman takes 30 minutes of continual stimulation to reach orgasm. It’s all about a nice gradual build up. The worst you can do is try to get her to orgasm right off the bat. Instead, let her know you’re going to be down there for a while and she should make herself good and comfortable. Tease her like you’ve never teased her before. Go painfully slow and explore every fold, nook, and cranny present between her thighs. Pay attention to which types of stimulation she responds to and what areas are really sensitive.

Don’t be afraid to be silly with it. Pinch her outer lips together and move your hands in a motion like you’re trying to jerk her clit off through the lips. Suck, nibble and pull on the lips. When your mouth is on her, play with different moaning or humming sounds; the pitch of the hum changes the feel of the vibrations. Hold her clitoral hood between your lips or fingers and have her do kegel exercises to move her clit up and down and jerk herself off. Or suck her clit off like you’re giving her a blowjob. It’s all about being creative, adventurous and just experimenting as much as you can to find new ‘tricks’.

Some women need the same stimulation over and over again, while others need you to keep switching it up. Personally? Put your fucking fingers in me and get my g-spot going! I can’t stand it when a guy is only using his mouth on me and forgetting how unbelievably amazing it is for him to do that along with his fingers rubbing against my g-spot. But not every woman is the same. Some don’t experience any pleasure from g-spot stimulation or fingering, so TALK to your partner about what she likes. You can also use a hand or two to play with her breasts, push down on her pubic mound, or gently stroke any part of her body that’s within reach.

Oral is all about having fun. You need to be enjoying yourself just as much as she is. It’s not something to be taken so seriously… play around, be silly and that’s when you learn so much more about your partner’s sexual response than ever before. The more you put yourself out there and really work to figure out all the different things you can do to her, the more willing she’ll be when she returns the favour and goes down on you. Encourage each other to be as adventurous and creative as possible and a whole new world of oral pleasure will emerge.

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Maxxters is a female in her late 20s and a former high school teacher. She taught Science and Sex Ed to 12-18 year olds. She’s currently working on her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality. She is also an aerobics instructor and personal trainer, working with those who suffer from eating disorders and body image issues. Send her your questions at: maxxters@sexpertslounge.com

CunnilingusThe clitoris is filled with about 8,000 nerve endings.  It is the orgasm center for many, many women, so it only makes sense to go straight to the source and give it hell, right?  Nope.  It may come as a surprise, but heading straight to the clit for the vast majority of women can be uncomfortable and even painful.  Your intentions are in the right place, but you can actually give her more pleasure by holding off for just a bit.

While there are many methods when it comes to cunnilingus, I’m going to give you a few pointers that will help you to use your mouth to make her feel awesome.  Like many men and women, you probably love the feel and taste of her soft, warm lady bits on your tongue and lips.  Don’t be afraid to enjoy every bit of her to the fullest extent.

So, what do you do?

Kisses. It may sound contrived or predictable, but there’s a reason this bit of advice comes up as often as it does.  Kissing is the ideal action for so many things in life, but here I’m telling you to start by kissing her pussy as is before you begin spreading, opening and unfolding.  Make sure your lips are moist, then lay a few gentle smackers on her inner thighs, working your way towards her lips.  Once you get to them, give them a few kisses too.  Soft at first, gradually increasing the pressure.  You’ll be shocked at how this little move gets her going.

Hands.  Now you can get your hands involved.  Gently spread her lips, massage her inner and outer labia with your wet fingers.  Perhaps you place your hand on her pussy so that her clit is between your fingers.  Make sure your hands are warm and your fingers are wet.  Saliva works!  Eventually she’ll be so turned on that you’ll be able to use her juices.

Let the tip of your tongue run along the opening, barely pressing against her still hood-covered clit (if this applies.  Some women have clits that are always exposed).  Experiment and see what she likes.  Go from using the tip of your tongue to a full fledged lapping using your entire tongue.  She might like this more.  Pay attention to her reactions.  Press a little harder against her clit.  Is this what she wants?  You’ll be able to tell – noises, a rocking pelvis, hand on the head, pulling of your hair.  Unless she is incredibly shy (to be addressed at a later date), there will be some indication of what she prefers.

When the party really gets rolling and she is super wet, THEN you give her waiting clit some direct stimulation.  Lift up the little bit of skin that may or may not be covering and flick your tongue back and forth.  Some ladies will love this.  Their legs will shake, they will gasp and moan, their back will arch and who knows what else could go down.  However, some women never like direct stim during oral sex or any other time.  She might squeeze her legs shut, scoot away or jump a little.  If she isn’t the expressive type and you can’t tell, just ask.

A little clitoral sucking action may also be in order.  Again, pay attention.  If she is loving it, hang on for the ride!  Do NOT stop until she stops.  Her hips might be bucking, but trust me you’re going to want to keep going.  Enjoy it!  Take it in and recognize that you are making her feel amazing and about to give her one earth shattering orgasm.

Oral Sex Tips Cunnilingus TempoOne of the things many women complain men do wrong when they give oral sex today, is they are far too overzealous. Gentlemen, these are girls we are talking about. They take extra time showering, extra time dressing, extra time talking on the phone, and more extra time in plenty of other instances. What makes you think a woman would want receiving oral sex to be any different?

Instead of immediately slamming your five o’clock shadow into the most sensitive spot on her entire body, take your time and enjoy yourself. The entire vulva loves to be licked and sucked upon, so start light and shallow. Begin by gently licking the outside of her labia, and taking each lip into your mouth to massage them with your tongue. Once she shows increased body language, move on to gently rubbing your tongue flat against her clitoris, and flicking it with the tip. We guarantee you’ll have her far more turned on than if you were to take the Speed Racer route.

Making yourself comfortable exploring the vagina helps to keep a woman relaxed with what you are doing down there. The more relaxed she becomes, the easier it will be to make her orgasm. She will also most likely be more willing to direct your efforts, making it less of a challenge to understand her oral sex desires in the future.

When it comes to oral sex, men are always glorifying fellatio between each other in open conversation. Very rarely do we hear women carrying on about how great cunnilingus is. This is why we’re giving two tongues up for this racy cheer. Watch as this lifetime cheerleader takes a moment to shake her pom-poms for her favorite brand of oral sex. Cunnilingus of course!

Fatman Scoop and his wife Shanda sit down to teach you the finer points of performing oral sex on women. Scoop’s descriptions of the art of cunnilingus have enlightened the staff here at OralSex.com. As a direct result of his oral sex innovations, we may be posting on the “wine swish” and “jolly rancher” oral sex techniques very soon. One thing about this video is made very clear though, Shanda’s clitoris must be very happy with Scoop’s lips. Every woman in our office sat up and commented, “Wow, now those look fun..” while watching him demonstrate his masterful “pussy-ology”. Although, we’re not quite sure how the beard feels on the ass at this point. There may be an oral sex survey conducted here on whether male facial hair is welcomed or feared during cunnilingus.

Thank you to Fatman Scoop and Shanda for creating these hysterical sex education videos at ManAndWife.tv!

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A step by step process for bringing your female lover to an amazing oral climax.

1. Look in her eyes and tell her how beautiful she is! Kiss her! Spread your fingers, star-like, through her hair on the back of her head as you make love to her mouth, slowly… cautiously… Always, with a woman, read her rhythms and respond to her cues. Imagine you’re a male Black Widow spider, and at any moment your lover might gobble you up if you displease her. Take care not to bore her with the same motions, and do not proceed to the second step until you’ve milked this kissing & caressing for all it’s worth, and she’s ready for more.

2. Hold her in your arms so she can feel your strength, your masculinity. Kiss her forehead, nuzzle your face into her hair, whisper in her ear how good she feels, smells, tastes. Tell her you’ve never wanted to lick & suck a woman like you want to right now. Tell her you’re going to eat her pussy, and she’s gonna love it… but she’s gotta be patient, she’s gotta lie back and let you enjoy every inch of her body. Let her know she’s gonna feel so good. Oh yes, she’s gonna love this.

3. Now… gently lift her hair off the back of her neck, and kiss the nape where her skin is soft and baby-fine hairs catch your breath and send shivers down her back. From the back of her neck, move forward with your mouth to the front of her neck (careful, she may be ticklish!) and then under her neck, above her breasts, to an area most guys never even look at, much less kiss.

Use this “no man’s land” as a base from which you’ll work back up to her mouth, then down towards her breasts… then up to her mouth again, and then down closer to her breasts… Back and forth like that. First, give equal time to her mouth & chest, but as you get closer to those beautiful breasts, lessen the time you spend on her mouth and linger longer on her chest and neck.

Your hands tease her, too. Graze your palms barely across her nipples when you’re kissing her mouth, and then run your hands softly up the sides of her neck & thru her hair when your mouth is reaching towards her breasts. Eventually, she will be bending her body to meet your mouth, trying to get you to suck her breasts. So you play with her… touch your tongue an inch or two above her nipple and pull away if she lunges towards you. Look her in the eye and say, “No, not yet,” and then swoop your mouth down her rib cage, under her arms, anywhere but the breasts. Don’t touch those boobies till she’s squirming.

4. Now kiss her breasts! Remember, when you stimulate a woman’s breasts, she feels a wonderful, tugging sensation deep, down below… in the pleasure-center from where her orgasm flows. So strong is this “pull” that some women can orgasm from breast-play alone, but don’t count on that. Instead, focus your energies on building her passion, fanning the fire so she’s burning by the time you lap her labia!

Since not all women enjoy the same stimulation, you’ll need to figure out what she likes by trial and error. Experiment with different ways to touch and taste her breasts; remember what works, then move onto another technique. If you get a luke-warm response, heat her back up with one of her favorite moves before trying another new one on her.


Some suggestions:

a. Knead her breasts gently but with all your hands, like you were kneading dough.

b. Pinch her nipples — hard. Many women appreciate a strong grip here. Careful with the teeth, though!

c. Have her hold her breasts for you to kiss. You can pull her fingers into her mouth along with her nipples… very sexy.

d. Nuzzle her underarms as you stroke her breast/nipples.

e. Wet her breasts with your mouth, then softly blow across them.

f. Gently rake your nails across her breasts (a man’s short nails still produce an interesting sensation)

g. Try licking her breasts thru her shirt or the sheet. The feel of wet fabric against nipples can be very exciting.

h. Stretch her hands over her head and hold them there together with one hand, while you adore her breasts with your mouth and free hand. Many women find this helpless feeling thrilling.

i. Anything that feels right at the time!


5. By now, she’s hot. Keep kissing her breasts, but start creeping your hand down her back, then over to her stomach, across her thighs… on your way to her mound of pubic hair. Take your time (remember the spider?) and when you feel daring enough, when you feel she’s ready, and her hips keep moving up towards your hands, let your fingers rake across her pubic hair, then dip your hand down between her thighs — not into the slit, yet, but on top of it — just hold your hand against her pussy for awhile, while your mouth continues to work on her breasts. It should seem to her as though your hand had a mind of its own, that your attention is still focused on her face, neck and breasts, though new sensations are stirring in her nether regions.

6. Your hand should now be cupped between her legs, the ball of your palm against her clit and your fingers down near her hole. Now, still kissing her breasts… move your fingers. Gently. Stroke her pussy upward, from her hole to the mound, taking care NOT to penetrate that juicy slit. Can you feel the heat & wetness, yet? If not, go back to Step One, my friend, you’re moving way too fast.

Let one finger dip deeper than the others, to meet the wetness and spread it around. Kiss her harder as your finger presses further into her slit, lengthwise, avoiding her clit and her vagina (for now). Is she’s moving her body to meet your hand, trying to guide your probing deeper? It’s dinnertime!

7. Stop kissing her breasts, but leave your finger where it is. Look her in the eye, tell her you’re hot, tell her you can’t stand it any longer, she must let you have her. If she’s shy, perhaps you’ll want to whisper that she must relax and close her eyes… If she liked you holding her hands over her head when you kissed her breasts, then maybe you can get a little bold, and tell her to lie back & spread ‘em! Or ask her to kneel over your face, or whatever position you find most comfortable. Let her know what’s coming, make her shiver with anticipation!

8. Rekindle the mood, but don’t linger too long, since you told her you’re going for it. Kiss her belly, kiss her thighs, massage her buttocks with one hand while your mouth moves… stroke her legs and feet if she likes that, but keep your lips & tongue near her pussy… keep a finger or two gently stimulating her slit…. lick your fingers, to make sure they’re wet!

9. Now… place a wet finger over the folds of her vulva and deftly part your lover’s pussy. Look at it. Note the pearly pink folds of her labia, the wrinkled clitoral hood at the top and the the inviting hole at the bottom. As you look, tease her pussy with a soft warm breath: “Huuuufff” ever-so-gently. As with breast-play, every woman likes different things, so you’ll need to learn the areas, sensations and rhythms that give her the most pleasure and excitement.

Communication is essential! If her physical cues are hard to read, ask her if what you’re doing feels good, ask her how it could feel better, ask her where her clit is, if you need to, rather than fumble around. Say to her, “Oh, your pussy is so hot and swollen with excitment, baby, is this where your delicious little clit is hiding?” A few women don’t like direct clitoral stimulation, so once you’ve found the right spot, make sure she wants you on it. Most of all, relax and enjoy! No one expects you to be perfect.

10. Begin. Many women enjoy a massage of the mons (the mound of skin on top of the pubic bone). Take one or both of your hands and carefully move the mons and surrounding area, in much the same way you would massage someone’s shoulders. Don’t press too hard or circle so wide that you’re pushing on her abdomen, which can be uncomfortable. As you manually stimulate the mons, move your mouth to the vulva.

11. Lick against her labia and vaginal entrance. Nuzzle, lick and suck each “lip,” flicking your tongue up to her clitoris — but don’t concentrate there, yet. Just gently and tenderly lick & kiss her labia, working your lips and tongue. Some women will like rapid motions of continuous licking while others prefer long, slow caresses, so experiment! If you get tired, try changing angles, placing a pillow under her hips or giving your neck a rest by settling your head over her pussy and sucking gently. Or, lie your head on her thighs or belly and continue stimulation with your fingers.

12. You can continue in this way until your partner has an orgasm, but most women need three to five minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to climax. Not only do different women prefer different stimulation, but a woman who normally likes it “hard ‘n heavy” might find one night she’s too sensitive for anything more than delicate fingering, so always approach the clitoris with caution.


Some suggestions:

a. Place your tongue or moistened finger slightly under her clit, then hook it upwards so you’re pressing flat against the clitoral hood. Hold and pulse up against her clit — don’t move across her skin, but rather stimulate her with varying pressure and rhythms till you find one she likes.

b. Circle her clit with your lips, and suck gently. Or, softly press on clit between wet thumb and finger.

c. Lay your tongue flat against the top of her pussy, with her clit at the strongest part of your tongue and your chin against her labia. Press your mouth –your whole face, really– into her as hard & fast as she wants it.

d. Move your tongue in a side-to-side motion across her clitoris. Again, vary speed and pressure to her liking. Some women can cum from feather-light tickling of the very tip of her clit, others prefer a heartier approach.

e. Close your lips over her clit and as you administer pressure, make a “Mmmmm” sound with your mouth. The vibrations drive some women crazy.

f. Stiffen your tongue, place it on the tip of her clitoris, and move your head from left to right as though you were saying “no,” but do it rapidly so your tongue is brushing against her clitoris a dozen times a second. Caution: this technique provides very intense stimulation!


13. Some women enjoy the feeling of penetration during oral sex, especially during direct clitoral stimulation. Try thrusting your tongue into her vagina while you suckle her clit, or use your finger(s). Some women will want a pumping action, while others simply like the feel of something inside them.

14. Orgasm. How do you know when she’s a-cumming? Watch her! Let her moans and body movements clue you in. Many women will shake or quiver as the tension builds in their bodies; at this point, it’s important to continue stimulating her in the same way until she climaxes, otherwise, you could break her rhythm. Also, almost half of all women experience their strongest orgasms when their legs are closed, so if your lover begins squeezing your head between her thighs you may want to adjust your position or at least brace yourself.

15. After orgasm, some women are simply too sensitive to tolerate any more clitoral stimulation. Others may want you to keep going, and going, and going. Most women are multi-orgasmic with the right stimulation, so keep this in mind as you kiss her thighs, her tummy, her neck (careful with the face, though, some women don’t appreciate a big sloppy kiss of their own juices).

Tell her she felt & tasted incredible, tell her you want to make love to her, if you do, and don’t be surprised if she cums again with your penis deep inside you. Afterwards, let the touching and caressing continue as long as you both enjoy it.

Well done!

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TONGUE EXERCISES for EXPERT LOVERS in 5 MINUTES

Good lovers have great tongues, expert at flicking and licking. A skilled tongue can dart in and out of the most private, personal places like a creature with a mind of its own… a dirty mind, at that! Yet a truly toned tongue can convey emotions, too, like yearning, tenderness, mischief, playfullness and much more. With a little practice, you’ll be maneuvering your mouth, lips and tongue like a true artist! Now sit yourself down in front of a mirror and let’s get started.

Meet Your Tongue: Stick it out as far as it’ll go. Roll it, touch your nose if you can. Flatten it out against your chin and then make it as pointy like an arrow. Keep your tongue moist, but don’t drool. Remember: slobbering is a turn-off.

Stick it out again, stiff, as far as it’ll go. Now, move your erect tongue left to right, like a windshield wiper, back and forth, touching the edge of your mouth each time. Can you do this for 30 seconds? Good. 60 seconds? Even better! Encircle your lips with your tongue, clockwise, five times, then switch direction and repeat.

Now, grab an empty shot glass or make a circle with your hand about an inch and a half wide. Hold the rim up to your mouth and slowly stick your tongue in as far as possible WITHOUT TOUCHING THE SIDES. Elongate your tongue, make it as slim and as pointed as you can. Reach down, down… be as precise with your movements as possible.

Lastly, roll a grape or cherry around your mouth. Feel it… lick it… suck it… love it. Tease it with your teeth, careful, don’t break the skin. Mmmm…!

What’s going on? You’re training your tongue to be a fine-tuned instrument. French kissing with your “new” tongue will be more rewarding, you’ll be able to tease and tickle like an expert! Oral sex, too. You can stimulate just the tip of the clitorous, to tickle the delicate underside of the penis head… You get the picture.

Happy Licking!