I was hanging out with a group of close girlfriends about a week ago. One of the girls is in a fairly new relationship and they’re still in that place where they can barely leave the house because all they want to do is stay home and fuck. Naturally, we all wanted to know how it was going along with any of the juicy sexy-time details she was willing to share. We inquired and she responded with a sigh and told us that he has only ever gone down on her once. She, let’s call her “Kate”, added that she doesn’t understand why her man never gives up the cunnilingus and just goes straight for penis to vagina penetration. Asking would be the most direct way to solve her problem, but she just hasn’t brought herself to do so.
Look, you can spend your life playing games and hoping you’ll get what you want, but you can avoid such nonsense and simply ask for it. If you really enjoy receiving oral sex and you’re not getting it, perhaps it is time to open up a dialogue. It may be as simple as telling your partner that you love having your pussy licked. Perhaps they need to be reminded that, while you love intercourse, oral sex bring about intense orgasms or just serve as foreplay. I realize that bringing up such subjects can be uncomfortable, but growing a pair and facing it can help avoid your dissatisfaction and possibly relationship issues. A fulfilling sex life is worth a few minutes or hours of awkwardness.
It is possible that your partner feels questionable about their oral skills and prefers to avoid it completely rather than not appear confident between your legs. To ease their fears, you can offer to coach them through and tell them what you like. You help him to help you and you get to level up in the intimacy department. Communicating is sexy! Chances are, he wants to please you and will feel really good once you lead him down the right path.
You can walk around expecting people to know what you need from them, but that is a sure fire way to go through life unsatisfied and bitter. This is true in all areas of life, but the least you can do is ask your partner to put his or her mouth on your vagina. Enough with the games!
P.S. I apologize if you are offended by the heterocentricity if this post. This advice applies to everyone regardless of gender, sexual preference and parts. Since a hetero female inspired this, I used the corresponding language.