Being in sex biz, talking about oral sex is like talking about what you’re going to have for lunch.  It happens often and it isn’t all that shocking.  I totally love what I do, but I have long since forgotten what it is like to talk about sex in a not-so-everyday way.  I like to think I know a thing or two about oral sex and that I what I have to say is pretty useful.  But, when you want to know what women want and like, I think it is pretty important to hear what women that don’t necessarily eat, sleep and breathe sex – in the most work related of ways – have to say .  Well, perhaps a couple of ladies that do that too. I decided to poll some of my friends with two basic questions: What do you like the most about giving oral sex?  What do you like the most about receiving oral sex?Oral Sex Poll

These ladies all come from different backgrounds with varying sexual orientations.  The one thing they all have in common is that they are all awesome.  Here is what they had to say:

Giving: “I like giving oral sex because it helps get me in the mood too. I think the best part is making the other person like putty in your hands.”
Receiving: “What I love most about receiving oral sex is that I can turn my brain off and just be completely in the moment, without a care in the world!!”

Giving: “I like when the guy makes noise – it lets me know I’m doing a good job!  Complete silence weirds me out.”
Receiving: “I wouldn’t know – it’s been too long!  Sad face.”

Giving: “When it comes to oral sex, what I love most is the taste; the warm, wet delicate skin; the reaction.  Yum.”
Receiving: “I don’t particularly enjoy receiving oral sex.  I need a lot of pressure on my clit, and licking just doesn’t ever do it for me.”

Giving: “I get a great deal of pleasure knowing that I’m pleasing my partner. The better the orgasm for them, the better mine will be. In fact it’s like foreplay. It gets me aroused and ready, like stretching before a good run.”
Receiving: “I’m clitorally stimulated much easier than vanginally. The more oral sex, the better. I also find that oral sex has a certain sensitivity, when done right it’s both passionate and caring; and can set a tone for a long session of sex or prolonged orgasm.”

Giving: “Bringing pleasure to others makes me happy and I like doing things I know I’m good at. And in general I find it really arousing, bodies are sexy to me.”
Receiving: “It feels great and it gives my partner an opportunity to showcase their talents.”
-Dr. Timmaree

Giving: Well, I enjoy the slurping sound, just like a popsicle. It makes me feel as good as it sounds.

Giving: “I enjoy pleasing my partner and he goes nuts (no pun intended) when I give him oral. Plus I feel like I am in the driver seat in this situation.”
Receiving: “For me on the other hand I don’t need to receive oral all the time. I like to keep it to an “every once in a while” thing as I feel like it keeps the novelty of it alive. I’m all for it, but most times I’m more turned on by vaginal intercourse.”

Giving: I love the control part. I can make him cum, or make it feel like a backrub; relaxing and undeniably awesome. I also love to make him feel good. It makes me feel good.
Receiving: 2 Things. First, I love that the lucky man going down on me has no reservations about my body, and he loves it as much as I do. Number 2 would be the orgasm that I will soon acheive.

It is no secret that women love oral sex.  Isn’t it nice to know exactly what it is that they love about it?

One of the most pressing topics related to oral sex is the ever-looming stigma of degradation. Many people do not enjoy giving oral sex because they feel degraded when doing so. This prompted us to look deeper into how those who like giving oral sex feel when they do.

Featured below are the opinions of three different major female players within the adult industry today. Camille Crimson, Misti Dawn and Jayda Diamonde were all asked the same set of questions focused on their personal viewpoints of giving oral sex.

Their answers are very interesting in comparison to those who feel the opposite.

Camille Crimson Oral SexCamille Crimson
Owner and Star of

Do you enjoy giving oral sex? Why?

Yes, I certainly do. For me, the power of giving someone pleasure is extremely erotic. Being skilled at oral sex and knowing that I really turn my partner on is a really passionate and connected experience.

Have you given oral sex to both men and women?

Yes I have. I’ve definitely given more blowjobs, since I run a blowjob website, but I’ve had experience with women as well.

Do your personal feelings differ between giving men Oral Sex and giving women Oral Sex?

Not at all. I think some people are conditioned to think that giving a man pleasure is somehow degrading whereas giving a woman pleasure (whether from a man or a woman) is about respecting her sexuality. I think that, in both cases, it’s about respecting sexuality and exploring new possibilities.

Do you feel degraded when giving Oral Sex?

Not at all! I feel empowered and enthusiastic and really excited. Giving pleasure is a huge turn on!

Do you have any advice for women who feel degraded when giving Oral Sex?

I think it’s just important to look at the context of the situation. Would your partner feel degraded giving you pleasure?

Talk to your partner about respecting you (not calling you names you don’t like, not pushing you to do things you feel uncomfortable with, not being too dominant while receiving oral sex) and make sure that you get the respect you deserve. But putting your mouth on someone’s genitals is in no way demeaning in and of itself. As long as he surrounding elements are all respectful, just focus on the joy of giving pleasure and you’ll find yourself starting to get aroused.

Misti Dawn Oral SexMisti Dawn
Adult Star & Owner of

Do you enjoy giving oral sex? Why?

I do.. BUT to people i care about. When giving it for work, its typically just work unless its someone i know/care about. But giving oral in real life is much different. I find giving oral sex to my partner to be very pleasurable and enjoyable for both parties. To put someone in your mouth is a very personal thing to do, and to see the look of enjoyment on their face when you look up is very satisfying.

Have you given oral sex to both men and women?

Yes, and i enjoy doing both.

Do your personal feelings differ between giving men Oral Sex and giving women Oral Sex?

Not one bit.

Do you feel degraded when giving Oral Sex?

Not at all. It can be a submissive or dominant thing. You can be in control of their pleasure or be submissive in pleasing them.

Do you have any advice for women who feel degraded when giving Oral Sex?

I would say look to why you feel it’s degrading and what parts seem that way to you. Did you have a bad experience? Then you can address how to remove those things from oral sex that cause you to feel degraded by it.

Jayda-Diamonde-Oral-SexJayda Diamonde
Adult Star & Owner of

Do you enjoy giving oral sex? Why?

Do I enjoy it??? Well, I wouldn’t say I simply enjoy it, actually… I LOVE IT!!
I pride myself on taking a fat thick cock balls deep with NO hands! I love the feeling and it actually make me cum sometimes!! Oral sex done right, can be one of your mans most favorite things. Lets face it, its a different world for men. Sex doesn’t always come easy for men, like it can for any women. Guys cant just walk in a bar and go “I want to get laid”. Its a tough world out there and when I can satisfy my man at a moments notice on my knees, whats not to enjoy?

Have you given oral sex to both men and women?

Of course I have performed oral on men and women and I’ve had it done on me from both sexes, sometime at the same time!

Do your personal feelings differ between giving men Oral Sex and giving women Oral Sex?

As far as giving it goes, I prefer giving oral to men. There is nothing quite like the feeling of stuffing a huge fat cock all the way down my throat with no hands and looking and listening to the man as he can sit back, relax and really let himself go.

Do you feel degraded when giving Oral Sex?

Degraded? Of course not. Oral sex is just another part of the long list of sexual pleasures I believe everyone should be able to enjoy. There is nothing degrading about oral sex in my opinion in any way. To the contrary, I believe it is a way to really connect with that person on an intimate level and assure that your man can really enjoy himself to the fullest. Oral sex is a great way to show just how much you appreciate your partner.

Do you have any advice for women who feel degraded when giving Oral Sex?

Well, I feel sorry for anyone, man or woman that feels degraded when giving oral sex. Oral sex is a beautiful thing that allows you to show your deepest desire to please your partner on a one on one intimate level. It isn’t a bad thing, like your mother may have told you. I suggest that all men and women embrace your sexuality and open your horizons to another type of sexual pleasure that can really keep your partner cumming back for more!


Camille Crimson is an admittedly nerdy, gorgeous green-eyed redhead with beautiful affinities for both oral sex and web coding. Camille Crimson recently signed a DVD distribution deal with LFP Video to produce DVD videos with her oral sex content on

Utilizing engaging music, soft visuals and playful themes, Camille and her boyfriend create sensual oral sex videos. Rather than profiting on the less intimate oral sex content being produced by major adult industry studios, Camille Crimson has become successful by focusing on the art and eroticism of couples’ fellatio.

Camille-CrimsonWhen did you give your first blowjob Camille?

Camille Crimson – I was in my mid-teens with my boyfriend at the time.

Did you enjoy fellatio as much then as you do now?

Camille Crimson – Not really. It was fine, but I didn’t see the full pleasure and sensuality of giving really skilled oral sex until I met Mike (my boyfriend) in my early 20s.

What are your favorite things about giving a good blowjob?

Camille Crimson – I really love expanding my skill set, trying new ways to flick my tongue, a new combination of stroking and sucking, a new way to tease his balls. You’d think I’d have found it all after all this time, but there is always a new sensation to discover.

What do you think the most important thing to remember while giving a blowjob is for a female?

Camille Crimson – Just pay attention to his cues, honestly. It’s all well and good to want to deep throat like a sword swallower or to work your tongue like a snake, but he may want you to go easy, focus on the head, stroke him while you suck, etc… A blowjob isn’t a one way performance, so communication is key. Maybe it’ll just be a better reaction to certain stimulation, maybe he’ll try to guide you back to a certain place or maybe he’ll just tell you. No matter how, respond accordingly. This doesn’t mean you have to do only one thing, but keep that special spot/technique in mind and consider it home when you give a blowjob. You can try out whatever you like, but make sure to check in at home base.

What do you think the major difference is between women who like giving blowjobs, and those who don’t?

Camille Crimson – I don’t mean to sound condescending, but I think women who don’t like giving blowjobs might have had bad experiences. Fundamentally, anyone who loves receiving pleasure should love giving pleasure. Maybe they aren’t getting enough pleasure or having their needs listened to. Maybe they’ve had selfish lovers. Maybe they’ve had bad experiences with smell, taste or gag reflexes. I think that more communication would make blowjobs at least palatable. They may never absolutely love it, but there is a way to get in touch with the eroticism of giving pleasure in the right context.

Camille-CrimsonIs there anything a guy can do to make his significant other appreciate giving oral sex more?

Camille Crimson – Give in return, and not just blindly. Ask what feels good and what they want. Then make sure to be well-showered, to eat a healthy diet and to never ever be forceful with thrusts unless asked. And make sure to be appreciative after, because nothing makes you more confident about your blowjob ability than some well-deserved praise.

Were your intentions with your first oral sex video as artistic as they are now?

Camille Crimson – Before we began shooting, we were making websites for others and got screwed out of a big deal. So, at the time there was an element of wanting to find a source of income, but the bigger thing was that we were just done working for other people and their crazy whims. We wanted to work for ourselves. We started with erotic portraiture, so it has always been about art, class and sensuality.

Why have you stuck to producing more oral sex than intercourse?

Camille Crimson – It’s a great niche to be in. Blowjobs are extremely popular, but it’s uncommon to see them done sensually and to be shot in an artistic way with a real couple. The response has been amazing. For now, we’ve got so much going on that we don’t really see the need to expand beyond blowjobs. That could definitely change, but for now, the site is keeping us very busy.

Could you walk us through a typical shoot for

Camille Crimson – We usually do it whenever the mood strikes us. We talk about what sort of theme (if any) we want, I get dressed/undressed, do my hair and make-up while Mike sets up the lights and cameras. Then, we do a few little tests just to make sure it’s looking good and we get down to business. Sometimes Mike will hold a camera or use a dolly out of frame, so there is some cinematography at work during the shoot, but we don’t usually stop until it’s all over. Then we cuddle and make a snack.

Specifically, what do you think sets your videos apart from other mainstream blowjob content?

Camille Crimson – It’s a mix of art, sensuality and love. Our aesthetic is very different because we put so much effort into the composition, the lighting, the editing, the music… It’s uncommon for that much work to be put into porn, unfortunately. The blowjobs themselves are the polar opposite of the “rough throat fucking” or quick auto-pilot preludes to intercourse that you see in most porn. They’re sensual, full of skill and are genuinely enjoyable to both of us. And the love, well, that’s self-explanatory. We’re not paid to show up and be intimate, not that there’s anything wrong with that. It’s just a different feeling, and it’s hard to put your finger on, but it’s tangible in everything we do.

Camille-Crimson-Black-DressHave you had the same boyfriend through your entire adult career? If so, how does he feel about being a cock model?

Camille Crimson – Yes, and we had been together for over a decade when we started. He loves it! He’s the videographer/photographer/editor for the site, so it’s not all blowjobs, but he absolutely adores what he does. He gets to be creative and have lots of orgasms. 🙂

Do you watch much pornography in your personal time? If so, what are your favorite genres?

Camille Crimson – I do, but I actually watch mostly amateur lesbian/anal stuff. It’s partly because that’s what turns me on, but it’s also partly because it feels the furthest away from the stuff that we watch to see what’s going on in the porn world.

Besides yourself, who is your current favorite adult studio?

Camille Crimson – I honestly don’t know. There are a lot of cool directors, such as Erika Lust and Nica Noelle, who are doing things in a very ethical and sensual way, but there are lots others that I enjoy.

If you could change one thing about the way porn is made today, what would it be?

Camille Crimson – Well, I would probably change a bunch of things. The big thing would be that I’d want porn to be more contextualized. It’s fine if you want to have a rough blowjob site, but make it clear that the women are enthusiastic about this kind of rough sex, that it’s not the only way to have sex, that mutual pleasure is important… Like it or not, a lot of impressionable people watch porn and we have to try to make it clear that sexuality isn’t exactly what we see on the screen in mainstream porn.

Do you see yourself producing your style of pornography as a director with other models in the future?

Camille Crimson – Yes, in a way. We’ve already started with a new couple, but instead of directing them, we’ve given them the tools and tricks to make porn with the same artistic look and they can have full intimacy with what they do, no one else in the room! It works really well. Their names are Lilyanne and Max and they’re really amazing people. They’re really passionate about showing beautiful, romantic and sensual sexuality, so I think the site is going to be a huge hit. It’s at

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