A step by step process for bringing your female lover to an amazing oral climax.
1. Look in her eyes and tell her how beautiful she is! Kiss her! Spread your fingers, star-like, through her hair on the back of her head as you make love to her mouth, slowly… cautiously… Always, with a woman, read her rhythms and respond to her cues. Imagine you’re a male Black Widow spider, and at any moment your lover might gobble you up if you displease her. Take care not to bore her with the same motions, and do not proceed to the second step until you’ve milked this kissing & caressing for all it’s worth, and she’s ready for more.
2. Hold her in your arms so she can feel your strength, your masculinity. Kiss her forehead, nuzzle your face into her hair, whisper in her ear how good she feels, smells, tastes. Tell her you’ve never wanted to lick & suck a woman like you want to right now. Tell her you’re going to eat her pussy, and she’s gonna love it… but she’s gotta be patient, she’s gotta lie back and let you enjoy every inch of her body. Let her know she’s gonna feel so good. Oh yes, she’s gonna love this.
3. Now… gently lift her hair off the back of her neck, and kiss the nape where her skin is soft and baby-fine hairs catch your breath and send shivers down her back. From the back of her neck, move forward with your mouth to the front of her neck (careful, she may be ticklish!) and then under her neck, above her breasts, to an area most guys never even look at, much less kiss.
Use this “no man’s land” as a base from which you’ll work back up to her mouth, then down towards her breasts… then up to her mouth again, and then down closer to her breasts… Back and forth like that. First, give equal time to her mouth & chest, but as you get closer to those beautiful breasts, lessen the time you spend on her mouth and linger longer on her chest and neck.
Your hands tease her, too. Graze your palms barely across her nipples when you’re kissing her mouth, and then run your hands softly up the sides of her neck & thru her hair when your mouth is reaching towards her breasts. Eventually, she will be bending her body to meet your mouth, trying to get you to suck her breasts. So you play with her… touch your tongue an inch or two above her nipple and pull away if she lunges towards you. Look her in the eye and say, “No, not yet,” and then swoop your mouth down her rib cage, under her arms, anywhere but the breasts. Don’t touch those boobies till she’s squirming.
4. Now kiss her breasts! Remember, when you stimulate a woman’s breasts, she feels a wonderful, tugging sensation deep, down below… in the pleasure-center from where her orgasm flows. So strong is this “pull” that some women can orgasm from breast-play alone, but don’t count on that. Instead, focus your energies on building her passion, fanning the fire so she’s burning by the time you lap her labia!
Since not all women enjoy the same stimulation, you’ll need to figure out what she likes by trial and error. Experiment with different ways to touch and taste her breasts; remember what works, then move onto another technique. If you get a luke-warm response, heat her back up with one of her favorite moves before trying another new one on her.
Some suggestions:
a. Knead her breasts gently but with all your hands, like you were kneading dough.
b. Pinch her nipples — hard. Many women appreciate a strong grip here. Careful with the teeth, though!
c. Have her hold her breasts for you to kiss. You can pull her fingers into her mouth along with her nipples… very sexy.
d. Nuzzle her underarms as you stroke her breast/nipples.
e. Wet her breasts with your mouth, then softly blow across them.
f. Gently rake your nails across her breasts (a man’s short nails still produce an interesting sensation)
g. Try licking her breasts thru her shirt or the sheet. The feel of wet fabric against nipples can be very exciting.
h. Stretch her hands over her head and hold them there together with one hand, while you adore her breasts with your mouth and free hand. Many women find this helpless feeling thrilling.
i. Anything that feels right at the time!
5. By now, she’s hot. Keep kissing her breasts, but start creeping your hand down her back, then over to her stomach, across her thighs… on your way to her mound of pubic hair. Take your time (remember the spider?) and when you feel daring enough, when you feel she’s ready, and her hips keep moving up towards your hands, let your fingers rake across her pubic hair, then dip your hand down between her thighs — not into the slit, yet, but on top of it — just hold your hand against her pussy for awhile, while your mouth continues to work on her breasts. It should seem to her as though your hand had a mind of its own, that your attention is still focused on her face, neck and breasts, though new sensations are stirring in her nether regions.
6. Your hand should now be cupped between her legs, the ball of your palm against her clit and your fingers down near her hole. Now, still kissing her breasts… move your fingers. Gently. Stroke her pussy upward, from her hole to the mound, taking care NOT to penetrate that juicy slit. Can you feel the heat & wetness, yet? If not, go back to Step One, my friend, you’re moving way too fast.
Let one finger dip deeper than the others, to meet the wetness and spread it around. Kiss her harder as your finger presses further into her slit, lengthwise, avoiding her clit and her vagina (for now). Is she’s moving her body to meet your hand, trying to guide your probing deeper? It’s dinnertime!
7. Stop kissing her breasts, but leave your finger where it is. Look her in the eye, tell her you’re hot, tell her you can’t stand it any longer, she must let you have her. If she’s shy, perhaps you’ll want to whisper that she must relax and close her eyes… If she liked you holding her hands over her head when you kissed her breasts, then maybe you can get a little bold, and tell her to lie back & spread ‘em! Or ask her to kneel over your face, or whatever position you find most comfortable. Let her know what’s coming, make her shiver with anticipation!
8. Rekindle the mood, but don’t linger too long, since you told her you’re going for it. Kiss her belly, kiss her thighs, massage her buttocks with one hand while your mouth moves… stroke her legs and feet if she likes that, but keep your lips & tongue near her pussy… keep a finger or two gently stimulating her slit…. lick your fingers, to make sure they’re wet!
9. Now… place a wet finger over the folds of her vulva and deftly part your lover’s pussy. Look at it. Note the pearly pink folds of her labia, the wrinkled clitoral hood at the top and the the inviting hole at the bottom. As you look, tease her pussy with a soft warm breath: “Huuuufff” ever-so-gently. As with breast-play, every woman likes different things, so you’ll need to learn the areas, sensations and rhythms that give her the most pleasure and excitement.
Communication is essential! If her physical cues are hard to read, ask her if what you’re doing feels good, ask her how it could feel better, ask her where her clit is, if you need to, rather than fumble around. Say to her, “Oh, your pussy is so hot and swollen with excitment, baby, is this where your delicious little clit is hiding?” A few women don’t like direct clitoral stimulation, so once you’ve found the right spot, make sure she wants you on it. Most of all, relax and enjoy! No one expects you to be perfect.
10. Begin. Many women enjoy a massage of the mons (the mound of skin on top of the pubic bone). Take one or both of your hands and carefully move the mons and surrounding area, in much the same way you would massage someone’s shoulders. Don’t press too hard or circle so wide that you’re pushing on her abdomen, which can be uncomfortable. As you manually stimulate the mons, move your mouth to the vulva.
11. Lick against her labia and vaginal entrance. Nuzzle, lick and suck each “lip,” flicking your tongue up to her clitoris — but don’t concentrate there, yet. Just gently and tenderly lick & kiss her labia, working your lips and tongue. Some women will like rapid motions of continuous licking while others prefer long, slow caresses, so experiment! If you get tired, try changing angles, placing a pillow under her hips or giving your neck a rest by settling your head over her pussy and sucking gently. Or, lie your head on her thighs or belly and continue stimulation with your fingers.
12. You can continue in this way until your partner has an orgasm, but most women need three to five minutes of direct clitoral stimulation to climax. Not only do different women prefer different stimulation, but a woman who normally likes it “hard ‘n heavy” might find one night she’s too sensitive for anything more than delicate fingering, so always approach the clitoris with caution.
Some suggestions:
a. Place your tongue or moistened finger slightly under her clit, then hook it upwards so you’re pressing flat against the clitoral hood. Hold and pulse up against her clit — don’t move across her skin, but rather stimulate her with varying pressure and rhythms till you find one she likes.
b. Circle her clit with your lips, and suck gently. Or, softly press on clit between wet thumb and finger.
c. Lay your tongue flat against the top of her pussy, with her clit at the strongest part of your tongue and your chin against her labia. Press your mouth –your whole face, really– into her as hard & fast as she wants it.
d. Move your tongue in a side-to-side motion across her clitoris. Again, vary speed and pressure to her liking. Some women can cum from feather-light tickling of the very tip of her clit, others prefer a heartier approach.
e. Close your lips over her clit and as you administer pressure, make a “Mmmmm” sound with your mouth. The vibrations drive some women crazy.
f. Stiffen your tongue, place it on the tip of her clitoris, and move your head from left to right as though you were saying “no,” but do it rapidly so your tongue is brushing against her clitoris a dozen times a second. Caution: this technique provides very intense stimulation!
13. Some women enjoy the feeling of penetration during oral sex, especially during direct clitoral stimulation. Try thrusting your tongue into her vagina while you suckle her clit, or use your finger(s). Some women will want a pumping action, while others simply like the feel of something inside them.
14. Orgasm. How do you know when she’s a-cumming? Watch her! Let her moans and body movements clue you in. Many women will shake or quiver as the tension builds in their bodies; at this point, it’s important to continue stimulating her in the same way until she climaxes, otherwise, you could break her rhythm. Also, almost half of all women experience their strongest orgasms when their legs are closed, so if your lover begins squeezing your head between her thighs you may want to adjust your position or at least brace yourself.
15. After orgasm, some women are simply too sensitive to tolerate any more clitoral stimulation. Others may want you to keep going, and going, and going. Most women are multi-orgasmic with the right stimulation, so keep this in mind as you kiss her thighs, her tummy, her neck (careful with the face, though, some women don’t appreciate a big sloppy kiss of their own juices).
Tell her she felt & tasted incredible, tell her you want to make love to her, if you do, and don’t be surprised if she cums again with your penis deep inside you. Afterwards, let the touching and caressing continue as long as you both enjoy it.
Well done!
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