Oral Sex And Reciprocation

I was recently reading a few articles on goodmenproject.com. I came across an article that was written by our pal, Camille Crimson and there was one paragraph that inspired to write about something that I have yet to discuss on this blog: The reciprocation for oral sex doesn’t always have to be oral sex. Here is the paragraph:

“I tend to respond to these concerns in two equally important ways: first, that many people find giving pleasure very arousing and second, that there are lots of ways to give back. People often assume that the quid pro quo is oral sex for oral sex, but that makes some assumptions about what your partner may want. Whether it’s a new flame or someone you know very well, asking what makes them feel good yields some very useful information and shows that you care about actually making them feel good instead of just adhering to a sexual script.”

Some folks genuinely just enjoy giving oral sex with no desire to get anything any return. Never assume this is the case, though. After receiving a life changing blow job or pussy licking, don’t just go straight for a high-five and a snack. Ask if you can go down on them or what they would like/want you to do to them. Also, don’t get upset if they won’t let you “return the favor.” Don’t take it as a blow to your ego. Know that they genuinely benefited from performing oral sex on you and you aren’t less of a person for not giving them. Feeling bad will only take away from the awesome experience you just shared. Your concern for their pleasure will be appreciated and hot.

Moral of the story: Communicate then reciprocate. Appropriately.

The Science of Orgasms

If you’re a nerd like me then you probably like knowing the science behind the sex almost as much as you like having it. This video is fascinating and gives a clear explanation of what happens in the brain when you have an orgasm. Hot!

Good News – Semen Cures Morning Sickness!

Apparently a healthy shot of semen in the morning is the cure for what ails you – if you’re pregnant, that is. According to Gordon Gallup, a SUNY-Albany psychologist, ingesting a bit of your baby-daddy’s cum will act as a little “hair of the dog” and set you right. Be warned: Just any old jizz won’t work. It has to be the man-mortar straight from the source so don’t go around opening wide for just anyone to easy your baby belly. If you’re preggers by a dude that is still in your life, there’s never been a better reason to swallow! Well, it’s a hypothesis, but I suppose it is worth a try. Because you totally feel like giving a blow job and imbibing his load just before you hurl.

The thought is that a new life is forming inside of you and foreign substances are helping the little creature along the way. These foreign substances may not agree with the bun in the oven. If the sperm/familiar substance that helped get that life started is ingested, order is restored everyone feels all warm and fuzzy. I have never been pregnant (thank you sweet baby Jesus) so I have no way of knowing if this actually works. I’d love to hear from some of you baby bumpin’ ladies out there to find out if swallowing after oral sex eases the A.M. tummy ache.

Get the details on the morning sickness healing powers of oral sex on yourtango.com.

He’s Not Going Down On You? Ask.

I was hanging out with a group of close girlfriends about a week ago. One of the girls is in a fairly new relationship and they’re still in that place where they can barely leave the house because all they want to do is stay home and fuck. Naturally, we all wanted to know how it was going along with any of the juicy sexy-time details she was willing to share. We inquired and she responded with a sigh and told us that he has only ever gone down on her once. She, let’s call her “Kate”, added that she doesn’t understand why her man never gives up the cunnilingus and just goes straight for penis to vagina penetration. Asking would be the most direct way to solve her problem, but she just hasn’t brought herself to do so.

Look, you can spend your life playing games and hoping you’ll get what you want, but you can avoid such nonsense and simply ask for it. If you really enjoy receiving oral sex and you’re not getting it, perhaps it is time to open up a dialogue. It may be as simple as telling your partner that you love having your pussy licked. Perhaps they need to be reminded that, while you love intercourse, oral sex bring about intense orgasms or just serve as foreplay. I realize that bringing up such subjects can be uncomfortable, but growing a pair and facing it can help avoid your dissatisfaction and possibly relationship issues. A fulfilling sex life is worth a few minutes or hours of awkwardness.

It is possible that your partner feels questionable about their oral skills and prefers to avoid it completely rather than not appear confident between your legs. To ease their fears, you can offer to coach them through and tell them what you like. You help him to help you and you get to level up in the intimacy department. Communicating is sexy! Chances are, he wants to please you and will feel really good once you lead him down the right path.

You can walk around expecting people to know what you need from them, but that is a sure fire way to go through life unsatisfied and bitter. This is true in all areas of life, but the least you can do is ask your partner to put his or her mouth on your vagina. Enough with the games!

P.S. I apologize if you are offended by the heterocentricity if this post. This advice applies to everyone regardless of gender, sexual preference and parts. Since a hetero female inspired this, I used the corresponding language.

EduPorn – The Official Guides To Oral Sex

We’ve talked about the amazingly helpful oral sex guides from the Pleasure Ed Series in the past, but they’re so damn good I thought it would be appropriate to bring them up once more. Our good friends at HotMoviesForHer are always reviewing all types of porno and I wanted to share a little bit about what they had to say about these super awesome cunnilingus and fellatio how-to’s.

Without further ado, J.D. Bauchery on Dr. Carol Queen’s handy work.

Going Down – The Official Guide To Cunnilingus -
“I’ve reviewed my fair share of instructional porn in my time as a professional perv and I can honestly say that this flick is one of the best how-to pornos I’ve ever seen! This movie is seriously up there with my other instructional favorites – including Nina Hartley and Tristan Taormino, which is no small feat, at least in my opinion. Queen does a wonderful job of teaching the viewer all this information, Going Down – The Official Guide To Cunnilinguset keeping it totally sexy and interesting. One great example of that is her use of a vulva puppet to explain anatomy instead of a chart. While the chart may be easier for some folks to learn from, I thought it was very welcoming and way less clinical to teach with a stuffed pussy!

Another major difference in this movie was that it included queer folks! That’s right – gal on gal cunnilingus was on display as well! It really made me feel as though the information was being directed at me, and not just me listening in on info for men. The movie also featured women and men of different ages and with varying bodies. And though I’ve seen people of all ages in porn and with every body type imaginable, it still makes me so happy when I find yet another sex-positive movie that exemplifies real bodies and real folks fucking.”

Read the rest of J.D’s review at HotMoviesForHer.

Heads Up – The Official Guide To Fellatio

Sexologist Carol Queen returns to the instructional screen to give us all the sexy info on sucking cock. From tips and techniques to anatomy and demos, this 45 minute movie covers a good deal of dick-in-mouth material.

Along with Queen giving us lowdown on going down, real couples and porn performers alike take the stage to give us a demo of exactly how they get it on orally. These sexy romps also include interviews with the performers, discussing how they enjoy giving and receiving fellatio. The conversations definitely round out the instructional experience, while the visuals keep the action nice and engaging.

I love that Dr. Queen takes a minute to discuss how male anatomy is homologous, or structurally corresponding, to female anatomy. I think it’s so important to point out that male and female genital structures start out the same when we are in the womb; and as they form and change, the tissue moves to different places, but it is the same tissue. Knowing that is helpful in figuring out the most sensitive parts of folks’ bits. I also love that Queen is quick to talk about phalluses and not just penises – the phallus being the clit, transman cock, etc.

Read the rest of this review at HotMoviesForHer.

Air Head?

Last week Arden wrote an article about the hazards of road head. I came across this old site that gives a how-to on airplane sex so it only seemed right to post a few of the images. Should you decide to become a member of the mile high club this summer, you’re going to need to know hot to get it done. I’m not encouraging you to perform oral sex on yourself while sitting in your seat. That is still illegal. I’m just saying should you choose to venture down certain paths, these diagrams may com in handy. Enjoy.

Road Head: Hot or Hazardous?

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It’s summer time! For most Americans, plans will include some kind of exodus to a large body of water: Beaches, Lakes, Pools, etc. Well this is OralSex.com, and I thought of what that trend might mean for those of us naughty enough to read this and then go on vacation… If you’re driving to one of the destinations I’ve mentioned, and find yourself (or your partner) contemplating the possibility of “Road Head“… Remember this article! (It might save your life! And in turn save all the oral sex you would otherwise be having in the future!)

Road trips have this unique way of surprising us from time to time. You never know what could happen when you’re all cooped up in a vehicle with each other, bound for destinations known or otherwise. It can be unpredictable, but one thing you can usually count on while stationary for hours on end– is boredom. No matter the playlists, magazines, naps, advanced level I-Spy, or fast food stops– you may find yourself desperately searching for entertainment alternatives. Once you’ve crossed this threshold you may also find yourself considering things you’ve never before considered… like road head.

It’s only natural for sex to weasel it’s way into even the most mundane tasks. While driving, or locked in bumper to bumper traffic, it’s fun to joke about making the ride a little sexier. There’s a certain allure to blow jobs on wheels. It’s semi-public, with all the pedestrians, cars, & trucks– someone might catch you! It’s fast, it involves cars, it’s spontaneous, and it’s down right naughty! You might be asking yourself– “Why don’t we face-fuck every time we get behind the wheel?!?” Well my friends, I can tell you based upon thorough personal research– It’s not as entertaining as you might expect!

For starters: Many vehicles pose built-in obstacles that barricade you from reaching your intended target. Seat belts, gear shifters, steering wheels, center consoles, arm rests… All total obstructions! If you manage to somehow overcome such barriers, (you must be an expert yogi, &/or fiercely determined) there are still certain things to consider: The semi-public element you once thought of as a thrill may turn on you at any time. Likely observers will be the people NOT driving other vehicles, such as children, or the elderly. Law enforcement is another potential threat. You certainly don’t want any of these people peeping your in-car sexcapades. Last but certainly not least (and probably the most obvious) there’s the risk of wrecking your car resulting in the worst orgasm ever.

In the end, road head seems to be a lot more trouble than it’s worth, but If you’re not convinced & find yourself determined to blow on the go, I have a few recommendations. First: Don’t wait until your on the highway to whip it out and indulge. Save this naughty treat for back roads only, or a similar area where traffic won’t be so abundant. Or: Consider opting for a backseat oral session instead. You could talk dirty on your way to a secluded parking lot and hop into the backseat once you arrive. It will still feel risky but won’t involve all the complications of traditional road head. Another option might be: Road hand jobs instead of head. It’s a lot more discrete, comfortable, and you can even keep your seat belt on! Good Luck out there! -Arden

Happy Steak And A Blowjob Day!

Today is the day! Sure, it might be totally shovenistic, but blowjobs are awesome and steak is delicious. There is nothing wrong with getting in on the fun. I don’t think you should ever need a reason to give or receive a blowjob. If that is the case then you have more issues in your life that need to be addressed. BUT, there is nothing wrong with celebrating such a holiday. Have some fun with it. Have a laugh and enjoy some oral sex fun along with a delicious meal. Some might suggest going with the BJ after dinner, but I prefer eating after a hot and sexy session of any kind. Orgasms make me hungry. I say get your cock sucking on first and then pig out!

If you need a little help in either area the official Steak and BJ Website has plenty of blowjob tips and steak recipes. I am partial to all of Tristan Taormino EduPorns so I would go with Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Oral Sex Part Two – Fellatio or Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide To Advanced Fellatio. I trust her to lead me in the right direction. Her movies are great for couples and totally sex positive. As far as steak recipes are concerned – if your steak requires more than a grille and a pinch of salt then your meat is crap.

I don’t see any reason why vegetarians can’t get in on the action. Go ahead and grill up some tofu, tempe or a portabello mushroom. The sausage in your pants counts as meat free since sucking, licking and admiring are the only activities involved.

Have a great holiday!

Oral Sex Ed: Balls

Sometimes the balls need a little love. They’re there. They want to be noticed. They’d like to say hello. They’d like to get in on the fun. Let them in and make them feel welcome in your oral sex life.

Here are a few suggestions:

Start with what you know: A blow job. While his member is in your mouth, place the palm of your hand underneath them. You can gently cup them or just let them know you’re there. Let them feel the ever so slight pressure of your hand and the warmth of your skin. Support them. Give them a little break from gravity. From here you can caress them softly using a slow circular or back and forth motions with the palm of your hand. Increase the pressure with ease and feel free to experiment as long as you proceed with care!

Some suggestions for moving from his cock to his balls: Once you’ve given his wang a once over, go ahead and be playful about it – slide your tongue down his shaft, like a reverse lollipop, until you reach his scrotum. You can also exchange the tongue action for kisses. Start at his head with sweet little kisses and make your way down. Make sure your lips are nice and wet. Work up a little saliva and let it be a part of all things oral. Keep stroking his cock, or least keep a nice comforting grip on it.

*Side Note: If they’re not clean, don’t lick them. Guys, if you know there is a little funk happening down there, be a dear and let her or him know. There’s also nothing wrong with saying, ‘hey, I would love for you to do this, let me go wash up.’ They might decide to devour your funkiness. There may be some bacterial issues involved, but you can at least warn them!

There you are with his balls staring you right in the mouth. It’s go time. As with all things sex related, you can always turn back. Otherwise, get to work! Start with a little licking. Don’t lap them up like a thirsty animal. Instead, use slow licks. Get used to the texture of his sack. You can use the tip of your tongue to make imaginary shapes or get into it with nice firm strokes using a flat tongue. See what he likes and spend extra time doing that.

Now that you’ve kissed them and made them feel loved, it’s time to pop one in your mouth and start sucking! Okay, that may have sounded a little ridiculous, but look, we’re talking about sucking on balls here. It’s OK to take it with a sense of humor. Roll one around in your mouth, add a little sucking action, and let your tongue be a part of the fun. Keep you fangs retracted. There is no need to get your teeth involved. This post is not about cock and ball torture! If you’re getting into it, go ahead pop the other one in there and suck, lick and enjoy his entire sack. You can always pull back if he doesn’t seem into it, but there is a pretty good chance that he will be loving life, especially if you’re stroking his cock along the way.

Don’t be afraid to come up for air and get a nice healthy mix of ball and cock sucking going. Your hands can be involved in stimulating both his penis and his jewels as well. Let the saliva flow freely. Most importantly, be gentle and communicate!

I hope this has been helpful in getting you on your way to taking his marbles into your mouth. If one or both of you don’t like it, there is no need to force anything. You can walk away at least knowing you tried.

Going Down On A Woman – It’s All About Variety

There is no doubt that one of the favourite things for a woman to receive is oral sex. Yes, there are some women who simply don’t enjoy it, no matter how good their partner may be, but these women are in the minority. Oral sex tends to be a favourite among women because it allows their partner to use techniques that involve a lot of precision, using a wide variety of textures and types of stimulation. If you’re a straight/bi male, you sticking your dick in a vagina limits you on the different sensations you can provide and what exact spots you hit. Sure you can press your pubic mound against hers to stimulate the clit without needing your hands and you can angle your penis towards her g-spot, but it will never be as controlled and direct as oral.

Simply put, there is no other feeling like a mouth on your vulva. It’s warm, wet and so many different sensations can be experienced. Hot or cold air can be gently blown over the pussy lips and whole vulva area. Lips can kiss, ever-so-gently brush against or suck on every inch of her womanly bits. The tongue can be made to be soft, flat and broad, or firm and pointy to lick, swirl, press or flick. Teeth can be used to gently nibble or even apply a bit more pressure for some pain play. Add moaning in and the vibrations traveling up from the throat to the mouth will act like a vibrator on her.

Notice how I said “every inch”? I can’t stress that enough. The clit is not the only part of the vulva that is sensitive to stimulation! Inner thighs, outer and inner lips, the perineum, the urethral meatus, the vaginal opening, the clit and all the other areas there that you can get your mouth on can be incredibly sensitive. It’s about playing around with different speeds (fast is not always better!), sensations, and techniques. Take. Your. Time. The average woman takes 30 minutes of continual stimulation to reach orgasm. It’s all about a nice gradual build up. The worst you can do is try to get her to orgasm right off the bat. Instead, let her know you’re going to be down there for a while and she should make herself good and comfortable. Tease her like you’ve never teased her before. Go painfully slow and explore every fold, nook, and cranny present between her thighs. Pay attention to which types of stimulation she responds to and what areas are really sensitive.

Don’t be afraid to be silly with it. Pinch her outer lips together and move your hands in a motion like you’re trying to jerk her clit off through the lips. Suck, nibble and pull on the lips. When your mouth is on her, play with different moaning or humming sounds; the pitch of the hum changes the feel of the vibrations. Hold her clitoral hood between your lips or fingers and have her do kegel exercises to move her clit up and down and jerk herself off. Or suck her clit off like you’re giving her a blowjob. It’s all about being creative, adventurous and just experimenting as much as you can to find new ‘tricks’.

Some women need the same stimulation over and over again, while others need you to keep switching it up. Personally? Put your fucking fingers in me and get my g-spot going! I can’t stand it when a guy is only using his mouth on me and forgetting how unbelievably amazing it is for him to do that along with his fingers rubbing against my g-spot. But not every woman is the same. Some don’t experience any pleasure from g-spot stimulation or fingering, so TALK to your partner about what she likes. You can also use a hand or two to play with her breasts, push down on her pubic mound, or gently stroke any part of her body that’s within reach.

Oral is all about having fun. You need to be enjoying yourself just as much as she is. It’s not something to be taken so seriously… play around, be silly and that’s when you learn so much more about your partner’s sexual response than ever before. The more you put yourself out there and really work to figure out all the different things you can do to her, the more willing she’ll be when she returns the favour and goes down on you. Encourage each other to be as adventurous and creative as possible and a whole new world of oral pleasure will emerge.

Read more from maxxters at thesexpertslounge.com.

Maxxters is a female in her late 20s and a former high school teacher. She taught Science and Sex Ed to 12-18 year olds. She’s currently working on her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality. She is also an aerobics instructor and personal trainer, working with those who suffer from eating disorders and body image issues. Send her your questions at: maxxters@sexpertslounge.com

Oral Sex And Reciprocation

The Science of Orgasms

Good News – Semen Cures Morning Sickness!

He’s Not Going Down On You? Ask.

EduPorn – The Official Guides To Oral Sex

Air Head?

Road Head: Hot or Hazardous?

Happy Steak And A Blowjob Day!

Oral Sex Ed: Balls

Going Down On A Woman – It’s All About Variety

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