Going Down On A Woman – It’s All About Variety

There is no doubt that one of the favourite things for a woman to receive is oral sex. Yes, there are some women who simply don’t enjoy it, no matter how good their partner may be, but these women are in the minority. Oral sex tends to be a favourite among women because it allows their partner to use techniques that involve a lot of precision, using a wide variety of textures and types of stimulation. If you’re a straight/bi male, you sticking your dick in a vagina limits you on the different sensations you can provide and what exact spots you hit. Sure you can press your pubic mound against hers to stimulate the clit without needing your hands and you can angle your penis towards her g-spot, but it will never be as controlled and direct as oral.

Simply put, there is no other feeling like a mouth on your vulva. It’s warm, wet and so many different sensations can be experienced. Hot or cold air can be gently blown over the pussy lips and whole vulva area. Lips can kiss, ever-so-gently brush against or suck on every inch of her womanly bits. The tongue can be made to be soft, flat and broad, or firm and pointy to lick, swirl, press or flick. Teeth can be used to gently nibble or even apply a bit more pressure for some pain play. Add moaning in and the vibrations traveling up from the throat to the mouth will act like a vibrator on her.

Notice how I said “every inch”? I can’t stress that enough. The clit is not the only part of the vulva that is sensitive to stimulation! Inner thighs, outer and inner lips, the perineum, the urethral meatus, the vaginal opening, the clit and all the other areas there that you can get your mouth on can be incredibly sensitive. It’s about playing around with different speeds (fast is not always better!), sensations, and techniques. Take. Your. Time. The average woman takes 30 minutes of continual stimulation to reach orgasm. It’s all about a nice gradual build up. The worst you can do is try to get her to orgasm right off the bat. Instead, let her know you’re going to be down there for a while and she should make herself good and comfortable. Tease her like you’ve never teased her before. Go painfully slow and explore every fold, nook, and cranny present between her thighs. Pay attention to which types of stimulation she responds to and what areas are really sensitive.

Don’t be afraid to be silly with it. Pinch her outer lips together and move your hands in a motion like you’re trying to jerk her clit off through the lips. Suck, nibble and pull on the lips. When your mouth is on her, play with different moaning or humming sounds; the pitch of the hum changes the feel of the vibrations. Hold her clitoral hood between your lips or fingers and have her do kegel exercises to move her clit up and down and jerk herself off. Or suck her clit off like you’re giving her a blowjob. It’s all about being creative, adventurous and just experimenting as much as you can to find new ‘tricks’.

Some women need the same stimulation over and over again, while others need you to keep switching it up. Personally? Put your fucking fingers in me and get my g-spot going! I can’t stand it when a guy is only using his mouth on me and forgetting how unbelievably amazing it is for him to do that along with his fingers rubbing against my g-spot. But not every woman is the same. Some don’t experience any pleasure from g-spot stimulation or fingering, so TALK to your partner about what she likes. You can also use a hand or two to play with her breasts, push down on her pubic mound, or gently stroke any part of her body that’s within reach.

Oral is all about having fun. You need to be enjoying yourself just as much as she is. It’s not something to be taken so seriously… play around, be silly and that’s when you learn so much more about your partner’s sexual response than ever before. The more you put yourself out there and really work to figure out all the different things you can do to her, the more willing she’ll be when she returns the favour and goes down on you. Encourage each other to be as adventurous and creative as possible and a whole new world of oral pleasure will emerge.

Read more from maxxters at thesexpertslounge.com.

Maxxters is a female in her late 20s and a former high school teacher. She taught Science and Sex Ed to 12-18 year olds. She’s currently working on her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality. She is also an aerobics instructor and personal trainer, working with those who suffer from eating disorders and body image issues. Send her your questions at: maxxters@sexpertslounge.com

2012 Oral Meltdown

The year 2011 was a great year for Oral Sex. (I know I’ve certainly met my protein quota…) When I reflect back upon all the mouth sex of last year, it usually brings one thing to mind… What will future sex be like? It’s fun to reminisce about sticky facials, eating cream pies, and sitting on wet tongues… but that time has past… We’re now well into January and it’s becoming more and more evident to me that this year is going to be much different. Little did we know that with each dirty cell phone photo, naughty web cam show, and remotely operated sex toy use, we were really just preparing for the great Tech Sex Crescendo of 2012!

It’s not hard to believe that SIM techies are masterminding new ways to get it on. Our natural proclivity is to fuck after all, right? I’ve been known to flirt with kinky apps occasionally. It makes running errands a lot more satisfying when your phone is a versatile piece of sex equipment… and cuts down on the cost of supercharged sex toys that cost about the same. Need an “Advanced Guide To Oral Sex” on the fly? Well there’s an app for that on android. In fact there was even an app (since discontinued) called “Puff” for iPhone that allowed users to lift the skirt’s of Japanese girls by blowing into their cell’s microphone, creating a virtual gust of wind. I digress.

It’s intriguing to check out all of the complex toys and gadgets out on the market that highly trained scientists made for your horny mouth & mind. Did you know there are fascinating new technologies being used in Japan to simulate (hot?) make out sessions with your computer? Kissing robot attachments are currently being manufactured to help bridge the gap between Eastern long distance lovers– then the world! The kit simulates everything from pressure to odor and even has the capacity to memorize oral patterns & uniqueness. As The Dude from The Big Lebowski once said, “Interactive erotic software. The wave of the future, Dude. 100% electronic!”

Future Sex is real, and it’s happening all around us– So I’d like to remind everyone just how important it is to go down on each other in real time. Let’s make an effort to reach our maximum Oral Sex potential before Singularity takes us all by the balls– It probably won’t be much longer till bionic features and robotic limbs start making their way south of the belt loop, hence this important blog.

-Arden

Deepest Throat In Amateur Porn

I have been dubbed by fans and critics as the “Deepest Throat In Amateur Porn”.

This is in many ways so flattering. So I thought I’d share some photos and thoughts.

Most girls who “Suck Dick”, or what not have NO idea what they are doing. Why? Because they really never take the time to learn. This has always made me wonder why they do not.

I find sucking cock in many ways is an art form and very arousing at the same time. I have many a times had an orgasm or two from sucking on a dick.

I remember the first time I sucked a dick. I wasn’t really sure how I felt about it. Then I start to take an active interest in learning how to.

Most guys saying getting a bad blow job is better than no blow job at all. I find this statement so disheartening.

Women who are hot though, like super hot know that they don’t have to be good at it. There isn’t a guy in the world who would turn down the offer. BUT, they won’t be brutally honest with her either. She will walk away from that sexual experience feeling like she was really good at it.

Face it guys you will not be honest and this is your down fall. Teach this girl the right way. Even if she isn’t with you for the duration.

Give her the tap, or whatever, but be honest with her.

I have spent years perfecting oral sex, I wanted to know exactly how. I researched it. I got feed back etc.

I have often wondered would anyone here like info? Stories? How to’s?

Well let me know and we can take this whole thing farther.

Maddy

www.mariesplayplace.com

Other Places To Put Your Mouth

You don’t just have to put your mouth between her legs to orally stimulate her. Yes, I encourage you to allow your tongue and her pussy to form a long and lasting friendship, but you can also drive her bananas by making her bits your very last stop. This isn’t necessarily breaking news, but it is something we often forget in the quest to give her an earth shattering tongue lashing. Cunnilingus is fantastic. There is nothing wrong with making her wait for it.

Before your lips even meet her skin, start by stimulating her mind with a little dirty talk. Tell her what you want to do and are going to do to her. Tell her how much she turns you on. Tell her that you have been thinking about getting your hands (and mouth) on her all day long. Use your imagination and read her reactions to gage how far to go.

Ears and Neck: Since you were likely just whispering in her ear, start with little kisses and nibbles on her ear lobes and neck. Some people like a little biting, but that is definitely something that should be talked about before things get rough.

Breasts: The tatas are filled with tons of nerve endings which makes them perfect for sexual stimulation. Nipples are incredibly sensitive and some women can even achieve orgasm from having them played with. On the other hand, some women are so fond of intense nipple stim or they may not like it at all. Pay attention to her reactions or simply ask if that is something she enjoys. Be gentle here. Rough nipple play is something you should get absolute verbal consent for before engaging in it. Otherwise, enjoy!

Rib cage, stomach and back: The torso is filled with sensitive spots that love to be touched. You don’t need to coat her midsection in saliva, but kissing her all over and gently running your fingertips up and down her body can really make her tingle. You can even make her think you’re about to go down on her, only to tease and work your way down to her thighs instead.

Legs and Arms: The limbs are often forgotten as a source of excitement. The arms, especially the “underneath” side can cause quite the commotion in the underpants when kissed. A little light leg worshipping can make her feel uber sexy. Paying attention the area behind the knees will make her jaw drop.

Toes: Some of you may be anti-foot fetishists and that is totally okay. But if you are down with the little piggies, then by all means give them some love. Having your feet played with can be an unexpected turn on. Definitely check in to see if she is down with having her toes in your mouth before you treat her big toe like a pacifier!

You aren’t necessarily limited to these parts. Let your imagination run wild and find out what she likes. You just might surprise the both you and discover some uncharted erogenous zones that will alter your minds. Focus on one section or let your lips travel her entire body from head to toe! Either way, challenge yourself to see how orally creative you can get before or without ever landing between her legs.

Poll: What do women love about oral sex?

Being in sex biz, talking about oral sex is like talking about what you’re going to have for lunch. It happens often and it isn’t all that shocking. I totally love what I do, but I have long since forgotten what it is like to talk about sex in a not-so-everyday way. I like to think I know a thing or two about oral sex and that I what I have to say is pretty useful. But, when you want to know what women want and like, I think it is pretty important to hear what women that don’t necessarily eat, sleep and breathe sex – in the most work related of ways – have to say . Well, perhaps a couple of ladies that do that too. I decided to poll some of my friends with two basic questions: What do you like the most about giving oral sex? What do you like the most about receiving oral sex?

These ladies all come from different backgrounds with varying sexual orientations. The one thing they all have in common is that they are all awesome. Here is what they had to say:

Giving: “I like giving oral sex because it helps get me in the mood too. I think the best part is making the other person like putty in your hands.”
Receiving: “What I love most about receiving oral sex is that I can turn my brain off and just be completely in the moment, without a care in the world!!”
-Jenn

Giving: “I like when the guy makes noise – it lets me know I’m doing a good job! Complete silence weirds me out.”
Receiving: “I wouldn’t know – it’s been too long! Sad face.”
-Richelle

Giving: “When it comes to oral sex, what I love most is the taste; the warm, wet delicate skin; the reaction. Yum.”
Receiving: “I don’t particularly enjoy receiving oral sex. I need a lot of pressure on my clit, and licking just doesn’t ever do it for me.”
-J.D.

Giving: “I get a great deal of pleasure knowing that I’m pleasing my partner. The better the orgasm for them, the better mine will be. In fact it’s like foreplay. It gets me aroused and ready, like stretching before a good run.”
Receiving: “I’m clitorally stimulated much easier than vanginally. The more oral sex, the better. I also find that oral sex has a certain sensitivity, when done right it’s both passionate and caring; and can set a tone for a long session of sex or prolonged orgasm.”
-Sophie

Giving: “Bringing pleasure to others makes me happy and I like doing things I know I’m good at. And in general I find it really arousing, bodies are sexy to me.”
Receiving: “It feels great and it gives my partner an opportunity to showcase their talents.”
-Dr. Timmaree

Giving: Well, I enjoy the slurping sound, just like a popsicle. It makes me feel as good as it sounds.
-Kelli

Giving: “I enjoy pleasing my partner and he goes nuts (no pun intended) when I give him oral. Plus I feel like I am in the driver seat in this situation.”
Receiving: “For me on the other hand I don’t need to receive oral all the time. I like to keep it to an “every once in a while” thing as I feel like it keeps the novelty of it alive. I’m all for it, but most times I’m more turned on by vaginal intercourse.”
-Rosalee

Giving: I love the control part. I can make him cum, or make it feel like a backrub; relaxing and undeniably awesome. I also love to make him feel good. It makes me feel good.
Receiving: 2 Things. First, I love that the lucky man going down on me has no reservations about my body, and he loves it as much as I do. Number 2 would be the orgasm that I will soon acheive.
-Leslie

It is no secret that women love oral sex. Isn’t it nice to know exactly what it is that they love about it?

Tips and Techniques: Loving The Whole Package

Cunnilingus The clitoris is filled with about 8,000 nerve endings. It is the orgasm center for many, many women, so it only makes sense to go straight to the source and give it hell, right? Nope. It may come as a surprise, but heading straight to the clit for the vast majority of women can be uncomfortable and even painful. Your intentions are in the right place, but you can actually give her more pleasure by holding off for just a bit.

While there are many methods when it comes to cunnilingus, I’m going to give you a few pointers that will help you to use your mouth to make her feel awesome. Like many men and women, you probably love the feel and taste of her soft, warm lady bits on your tongue and lips. Don’t be afraid to enjoy every bit of her to the fullest extent.

So, what do you do?

Kisses. It may sound contrived or predictable, but there’s a reason this bit of advice comes up as often as it does. Kissing is the ideal action for so many things in life, but here I’m telling you to start by kissing her pussy as is before you begin spreading, opening and unfolding. Make sure your lips are moist, then lay a few gentle smackers on her inner thighs, working your way towards her lips. Once you get to them, give them a few kisses too. Soft at first, gradually increasing the pressure. You’ll be shocked at how this little move gets her going.

Hands. Now you can get your hands involved. Gently spread her lips, massage her inner and outer labia with your wet fingers. Perhaps you place your hand on her pussy so that her clit is between your fingers. Make sure your hands are warm and your fingers are wet. Saliva works! Eventually she’ll be so turned on that you’ll be able to use her juices.

Let the tip of your tongue run along the opening, barely pressing against her still hood-covered clit (if this applies. Some women have clits that are always exposed). Experiment and see what she likes. Go from using the tip of your tongue to a full fledged lapping using your entire tongue. She might like this more. Pay attention to her reactions. Press a little harder against her clit. Is this what she wants? You’ll be able to tell – noises, a rocking pelvis, hand on the head, pulling of your hair. Unless she is incredibly shy (to be addressed at a later date), there will be some indication of what she prefers.

When the party really gets rolling and she is super wet, THEN you give her waiting clit some direct stimulation. Lift up the little bit of skin that may or may not be covering and flick your tongue back and forth. Some ladies will love this. Their legs will shake, they will gasp and moan, their back will arch and who knows what else could go down. However, some women never like direct stim during oral sex or any other time. She might squeeze her legs shut, scoot away or jump a little. If she isn’t the expressive type and you can’t tell, just ask.

A little clitoral sucking action may also be in order. Again, pay attention. If she is loving it, hang on for the ride! Do NOT stop until she stops. Her hips might be bucking, but trust me you’re going to want to keep going. Enjoy it! Take it in and recognize that you are making her feel amazing and about to give her one earth shattering orgasm.

Oral Sex Tips – Cunnilingus – Tempo Tempo Tempo

One of the things many women complain men do wrong when they give oral sex today, is they are far too overzealous. Gentlemen, these are girls we are talking about. They take extra time showering, extra time dressing, extra time talking on the phone, and more extra time in plenty of other instances. What makes you think a woman would want receiving oral sex to be any different?

Instead of immediately slamming your five o’clock shadow into the most sensitive spot on her entire body, take your time and enjoy yourself. The entire vulva loves to be licked and sucked upon, so start light and shallow. Begin by gently licking the outside of her labia, and taking each lip into your mouth to massage them with your tongue. Once she shows increased body language, move on to gently rubbing your tongue flat against her clitoris, and flicking it with the tip. We guarantee you’ll have her far more turned on than if you were to take the Speed Racer route.

Making yourself comfortable exploring the vagina helps to keep a woman relaxed with what you are doing down there. The more relaxed she becomes, the easier it will be to make her orgasm. She will also most likely be more willing to direct your efforts, making it less of a challenge to understand her oral sex desires in the future.

Oral Sex Techniques – Getting Handsy

Getting handsy is a great way for you and your guy to get more out of oral sex. That isn’t to say that your mouth alone isn’t doing a stellar job of creating boundless pleasure, but the addition of a hand or two can really change it up and add to the fellatio experience for both of you.

I’m talking to you, assuming you are the giver. The addition of your hand can take on a little of the work load to give your mouth a bit of a break, especially if he’s larger than what your mouth can comfortably handle. Sure, a challenge is fun, as is pushing yourself beyond your limits, but there tends to come a point during oral sex when you’re still into it, but your mouth and throat could use some assistance. If you’re a pleaser, and it’s important for you to keep going and maintain equal pleasure, your hands are there for you.

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Recession Goes Oral

In today’s thoughts on oral sex — When the DOW goes down, so should you!

I’m a glutton for new articles and perspectives on sex, and mouthy pieces make me particularly excitable. Recently I’ve been noticing that with the influx in recession coverage, thrifty sex information has also risen to the occasion. What’s even more exciting is the new perk up in American consumption of sexual health products. “What in the heck does this have to do with more blow j’s Arden?” You might query. Here’s the break down my horny-recessed-friends… Not only is oral sex free, (alternatively if it is not free it’s less expensive according to several recent right wing news articles) but it’s also considered a damn effective form of contraception– yielding erotic benefits unique to itself.

According to a Forbes.com article* on Sex and the Recession, while industries across the board are taking financial kicks to the balls– sexual aid and sexual health companies are putting out more products than ever before for the increased demand from responsible, sexually active consumers. It’s not much of a surprise– depressed economies and war are known for instigating more sex among citizens, and today we’re still not ready to let our libidos take a slide with the market! When you walk into your local mega mart you’ll find new expanded family planning, sexual enhancement products, and even toys! Embracing new affordable products are helping Americans everywhere recess-proof their sex lives. Don’t let the lack of cushion prevent you from… ok, OK… The point is, despite certain challenges we might face– we can all turn to one of our less obvious past times– Oral Sex.

Arden

* Forbes.com “Sex And Recession” Christopher Varmus

Oral Sex Tips – Take Control

Oral Sex Tips - Take Control Many individuals we have spoken to lately have expressed concerns about how oral sex should occur between two people for the first time. More specifically, how one should ask for oral sex without knowing if their partner even likes giving and/or receiving it. Our answer to this classic sexual conundrum is fairly simple.

Take control of your questions.

Basic strategy dictates one must have information before making a decision. Therefore, someone needs to make a move toward oral sex before an answer can be obtained. We understand this may be more difficult and uncomfortable for the more submissive varieties, but fear has no place in the bedroom. Communication, whether via spoken word or obvious body language, is key to having the best oral sex possible with any individual. So, if you’re not getting any of the signals you need, gently force the issue.

Now, the use of “gently” is very important in this oral sex tip. We are not condoning grabbing someone by the back of the head, and thrusting your genitals in their face before they can react. Make your gestures blatant, but easy to respond to.

For example:

…. ERRRRRR – WRONG: Stop on a Whammy!

Although this move can be very good for couples who are already comfortable with their boundaries, there is no way Donny could have known if Dana likes to give fellatio. He just shoved his thing in her face, hoping for the positive side of a 50/50 chance. Let’s rewind a bit and see if there is a better way for Donny to proceed.

“Donny and Dana have just returned after meeting for the first time at their local bar, and are continuing a spirited make-out session whilst coming through the front door. Donny shuts the door behind him, and the frisky duo falls to the carpet. Dana undoes Donny’s belt and smiles at him while taking hold of his erection. Getting more and more turned on, Donny wraps his arms around Dana and rolls her to the top. Dana giggles a bit while slowly rotating her hips, and Donny runs his fingers through her hair. He tilts his head sideways, letting Dana kiss down his neck, and says, “If you wanted to kiss lower, I would return the favor.” Dana responds by kissing down Donny’s stomach, and takes him into her mouth for the best blowjob he has ever experienced.”

Ding Ding Ding!

This time around, Donny’s actions gave Dana ample time to refuse giving oral sex. Not only did this make Dana more comfortable with Donny as an oral sex partner, but it also most likely “sealed the deal” for him getting any further than where the first oral sex scenario ended. Keep your partners’ right to their decisions in mind, and you will find much more willing oral sex in your future.

Going Down On A Woman – It’s All About Variety

2012 Oral Meltdown

Deepest Throat In Amateur Porn

Other Places To Put Your Mouth

Poll: What do women love about oral sex?

Tips and Techniques: Loving The Whole Package

Oral Sex Tips – Cunnilingus – Tempo Tempo Tempo

Oral Sex Techniques – Getting Handsy

Recession Goes Oral

Oral Sex Tips – Take Control

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