The clitoris is filled with about 8,000 nerve endings. It is the orgasm center for many, many women, so it only makes sense to go straight to the source and give it hell, right? Nope. It may come as a surprise, but heading straight to the clit for the vast majority of women can be uncomfortable and even painful. Your intentions are in the right place, but you can actually give her more pleasure by holding off for just a bit.
While there are many methods when it comes to cunnilingus, I’m going to give you a few pointers that will help you to use your mouth to make her feel awesome. Like many men and women, you probably love the feel and taste of her soft, warm lady bits on your tongue and lips. Don’t be afraid to enjoy every bit of her to the fullest extent.
So, what do you do?
Kisses. It may sound contrived or predictable, but there’s a reason this bit of advice comes up as often as it does. Kissing is the ideal action for so many things in life, but here I’m telling you to start by kissing her pussy as is before you begin spreading, opening and unfolding. Make sure your lips are moist, then lay a few gentle smackers on her inner thighs, working your way towards her lips. Once you get to them, give them a few kisses too. Soft at first, gradually increasing the pressure. You’ll be shocked at how this little move gets her going.
Hands. Now you can get your hands involved. Gently spread her lips, massage her inner and outer labia with your wet fingers. Perhaps you place your hand on her pussy so that her clit is between your fingers. Make sure your hands are warm and your fingers are wet. Saliva works! Eventually she’ll be so turned on that you’ll be able to use her juices.
Let the tip of your tongue run along the opening, barely pressing against her still hood-covered clit (if this applies. Some women have clits that are always exposed). Experiment and see what she likes. Go from using the tip of your tongue to a full fledged lapping using your entire tongue. She might like this more. Pay attention to her reactions. Press a little harder against her clit. Is this what she wants? You’ll be able to tell – noises, a rocking pelvis, hand on the head, pulling of your hair. Unless she is incredibly shy (to be addressed at a later date), there will be some indication of what she prefers.
When the party really gets rolling and she is super wet, THEN you give her waiting clit some direct stimulation. Lift up the little bit of skin that may or may not be covering and flick your tongue back and forth. Some ladies will love this. Their legs will shake, they will gasp and moan, their back will arch and who knows what else could go down. However, some women never like direct stim during oral sex or any other time. She might squeeze her legs shut, scoot away or jump a little. If she isn’t the expressive type and you can’t tell, just ask.
A little clitoral sucking action may also be in order. Again, pay attention. If she is loving it, hang on for the ride! Do NOT stop until she stops. Her hips might be bucking, but trust me you’re going to want to keep going. Enjoy it! Take it in and recognize that you are making her feel amazing and about to give her one earth shattering orgasm.
