Oral sex aficionados may have their techniques down to a science, but there is always room to improve. Many people simply dive face first into oral sex with their partner, and remain deeply focused on bringing them to fruition. Where the focus and effort are surely appreciated, something is also lost.

What happened to the fun?

An integral part of any foreplay technique is the element of “tease”. There are many sub-elements which come together to create a successful tease, and some vary depending on each couple’s sexual dynamic, but I would like to focus on your pearly whites for now. Whether your sexual attitude lie more on the devious or the innocent side of the spectrum, showing enjoyment of the process to your partner can carry your sexual experiences far beyond the limits of physical prowess. Of course this concept makes logical sense when receiving oral sex, but it is even more important when giving it.

As the receiver of oral sex, ruling out the 69 position for this article’s sake, a person is at their most vulnerable. Think back to the last time you were on the receiving end of things. Regardless of how much you attempt to control your giver, you are entirely at the mercy of their mouth on your fun parts. Now, let me ask you a question while the image of your last partner’s face between your legs is fresh. Doesn’t it make you feel less restricted when the giver looks as if he/she/he-she is enjoying the oral sex process as well?

When giving oral sex of any attitude, make sure you make eye contact and smile at your receiver. If you’re into the more dark and devious side of oral sex, the smile sends a message of devious pleasure directly connected to controlling your receiver. For the more innocent variety, smiling makes your receiver that much more comfortable enjoying your oral sex. Both will guarantee a much more fluid exchange of emotion.

Smile!